First Date Kissing Tacky Or Totally Acceptable

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First Date Kissing: Tacky or Totally Acceptable?

Kara Pound

Written by: Kara Pound

Kara Pound

Kara Pound is an award-winning journalist based in St. Augustine, Florida. She holds a bachelor's degree in journalism from Flagler College. Her work has been published in INKED, Natural Awakenings, Design Aglow, Memphis Flyer, Jacksonville Magazine, E/Environmental Magazine, and dozens more. Check out some of Kara's work at

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Swedish Golden Screen siren Ingrid Bergman once said, “A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech when words become superfluous.”

There are members of American society who think a woman initiating a first date kiss means she’s “easy.” On the same token, a man who does the same is seen as “aggressive.” This slice of the American pie is stuck in the dark ages. It’s completely acceptable to kiss on the first date.

Note: It is not acceptable to have sex on the first date, and we will get to that in a future post.

People go on dates because they are looking for a potential partner. Part of that search includes an emotional connection and intimacy. Where would we be without the simple joy of a kiss?

Another of my favorite quotes about kissing is by Scottish satirical writer Thomas Carlyle. “If you are even in doubt as to whether to kiss a pretty girl, always give her the benefit of the doubt.”

For men who have a hard time determining when it’s appropriate to kiss a woman on the first date, they need to pay attention to body language. If she’s smiling politely and has her body moved away from yours as if in defense, don’t go in for the smooch. If she has an ear-to-ear grin plastered on her face and has touched your shoulder and back a few times, then go for it.

Don’t expect tongue. Actually, don’t even try for tongue. Just give her a gentle kiss — holding her face while you do — and then look her in the eyes and say, “I’ve had a lovely time.” Tell her you’ll call her and actually call her! This is the formula to ensure you will get a kiss on a second date and a third and a fourth.

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