How Do I Bring Up Sex in a New Relationship?

Bethany Heinesh

Written by: Bethany Heinesh

Bethany Heinesh

Bethany has ghost-written hundreds of dating articles in the last 10 years for relationship experts all over the United States.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

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Guys, when it comes to sex and a new relationship, sex should be the furthest thing from your mind. Talking, listening, spending time together with your clothes on, and getting to know her as a person should be priority. Too often men get together with a new woman and rush the sex. This complicates things tremendously and can even be dangerous. Good sex clouds good judgment, and men are incredibly susceptible to missing the psycho vibe when a woman is good in the sack.

If you don’t know what I mean, rent the movie “Fatal Attraction.” On the other hand, if you’ve been with your gal for a while, your relationship should be evolving toward physical intimacy. If you’re beginning to feel like sex is the natural next step, talk to her about it. Let her know how you’re feeling and see if she feels the same.

If you both agree that it’s time, create a scenario where the two of you can be alone in a romantic setting for a period of time. Take a weekend trip out of town and reserve a gorgeous cabin somewhere. Bring wine, candles and rose petals. Go all out and do it five star all the way. She’ll be putty in your hands. Literally.

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