How To Plan The Second Date

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How to Plan the Second Date

Kara Pound

Written by: Kara Pound

Kara Pound

Kara Pound is an award-winning journalist based in St. Augustine, Florida. She holds a bachelor's degree in journalism from Flagler College. Her work has been published in INKED, Natural Awakenings, Design Aglow, Memphis Flyer, Jacksonville Magazine, E/Environmental Magazine, and dozens more. Check out some of Kara's work at

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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You went on a first date with this really great girl. It went amazing. Now, it’s time to plan the second date. This is when you’ll find out if it was beginner’s luck or if there really is a spark between the two of you. In essence, the second date is actually just as important as the first one. So don’t screw it up. Guys, here are some tips to help you plan a second date any girl would be wild about.

1. Be creative.

Say your first date was the standard dinner and drinks. Pick something a bit out of the ordinary for a second date, while keeping in mind that conversation is key. Don’t cook for her because then you’ll be preparing food the whole date instead of getting to know her better. Instead, pack a gourmet picnic and take her to the beach or a populated park. Don’t take her somewhere isolated because she’s still learning to build trust in you.

2. Be attentive.

Conversations are a two-way street. When one member of the conversation is dominant, the other person feels left out or like what they have to say isn’t regarded as important. Make sure you not only offer honest information about yourself, but also ask your date plenty of questions about her life — work, friends, family, hobbies and the like.

3. Be on your best behavior.

Just because you’ve secured a second date, it doesn’t mean it’s time to stop acting like a gentleman. If you’re interested in a third, fourth and fifth date, then continue to be anticipatory — pay attention to her body language and how she’s moving her eyes. It will tell you a lot about what’s jiving about the date and what’s not.

A second date doesn’t mean you’re on your way to the alter. It means there’s still a lot of work left to be done. Getting to know someone is exciting, nerve-racking and takes a lot of selflessness. Pay attention to your date and how she’s reacting. Be creative, ask her questions about her life and always be a gentleman.

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