Is it OK to Kiss a Girl on the First Date?

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The answer depends on the girl’s age and experience and also on the level of romance and chemistry you developed during the course of your first date. It’s important to pay attention throughout the date so you can pick up on signs that will help you know the answer.

Here are a few guidelines that might help:

• Did you already discuss or set up a second date, or did she say you should see or do something together in the course of your conversation?

• Did she look at you with wide, sparkling eyes all night and have a big smile on her face the whole time?

• Was she receptive to your touch, and was her body language inviting and engaging?

If so, she likes you. Still, physical activity is always at the discretion of the woman, so test the waters. Hug her when you walk her to her door, and see if she holds on tight or lets go right away. If the signs are good, you might hold her face close to yours, tell her she’s beautiful, thank her for a great time, and press your lips briefly against hers. Then pull back and smile. If she wants another taste, let her go for it, but you should be the one to stop kissing first.

A man has to show control and leave her wanting more after a first date. She will appreciate that and respect you for it. Just remember: She’s a lady, not an all-you-can-eat buffet. This moment is a time for restraint so that hope, longing and expectations can soar.