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The Short Version: As any young adult who has battled problems — big or small — can tell you, an empathetic ear and advice from someone who’s walked the same path can help. Vancouver-based Confidence Coach and Counselor Kendra Hadley helps millennials overcome feelings of being stuck, so they can reach their goals in life and love. But she doesn’t coddle her clients — she helps them deal with their issues and emerge motivated and inspired. So, if you don’t mind a little straight talk mixed with compassion, Kendra can help you find your inner awesome.
There’s a guy who keeps popping up on my Facebook feed as a suggested friend. Every day, I am greeted by his muscular bare chest and six-pack abs standing in front of one of the Seven Wonders of the World. When I finally decided to click on his profile, I discovered he’s connected with a dear friend who’s an entrepreneur. So I sent her a message to ask: “What’s this guy’s story, anyway?”
It turns out that they’d gone on a few dates, but he confessed to her that he’d just gotten out of a messy breakup and wasn’t looking for anything serious. So, she took him at his word but started thinking about him again recently.
She was thankful that I happened to inquire about him because she was feeling indecisive after hearing through the grapevine that he was a bit of a player — which isn’t surprising considering his profile picture.
We chatted for a while, and I shared some ideas with her about how I would handle the situation, offering tips on how to keep her power while opening up my heart.
A little after that conversation, she gave me some great suggestions about how I could advance my business plans. We both gave and received valuable advice, the kind you can only get from someone who’s been there.
But not everyone is lucky enough to have friends with the valuable life and love insights they need. Much less ones who take the time to work through the issues they’re facing. Confidence Coach and Counselor Kendra Hadley has been there — and she stands ready to help clients in Vancouver, and around the world through Skype or Zoom sessions, benefit from her expertise and experience.
“I think the most important message I want people to understand is that, whatever they’ve been through, whether it’s major trauma or something that might pale in comparison, that it is their story. It has affected them, and that story is important and worth hearing,” she said.
Kendra’s training comes from a good teacher: experience.
“I have spent a lot of time learning what it means to truly love yourself. Now I have confidence and I own those pieces of myself that I wasn’t always proud of,” she said. “I want to bring that sense of love and belonging to everyone I meet — but especially those who seek my help.”
On her website, Kendra talks about the times in her life when things weren’t so easy. She realized she needed to center herself after a cheating boyfriend dumped her — and she found herself crawling across the floor, begging him to stay. As Kendra found out, there’s so much wisdom that comes from clawing your way out of that black hole.
Now she uses her strength to help other men and women break from the sadness that comes from drinking too much, unsatisfying casual sex, loneliness, insecurity, and unhappiness with work or friends.
She traveled overseas to find herself, and her travels led her back to Canada, where she now calls home. When working with clients, she taps into her curiosity and her intuition to help them connect with their own sense of self-worth and love.
Kendra said her clients are men and women ranging in age from 25 to 35 who often suffer from what she calls “millennial syndrome.”
“They often had pretty good childhoods, and still carry that forward with them, but they suffer from stress, low self-esteem, depression, and anxiety,” she said. “They feel like they should be further along in life, or happier than they are. They are looking to level up and feel fulfilled in all aspects of their lives but don’t know how to make it happen. Many come to me with relationship problems and are looking for love and a sense of belonging.”
“It’s important to remember that the work doesn’t have to start when you’re deep in the trenches, and the best results often come when you’ve started this journey already.” — Confidence Coach and Counselor Kendra Hadley
She describes her style as direct and no-nonsense, but she also lends a compassionate ear to help people find the root of their problems. Kendra focuses on topics like attachment and how the body processes emotion while providing tips on how to handle everyday stress.
“It’s important to remember that the work doesn’t have to start when you’re deep in the trenches, and the best results often come when you’ve started this journey already,” she said. “You don’t need to be broken before you ask for help.”
Kendra’s approach is a combination of both coaching and counseling. Her clients find it helpful because they often need to process their pasts to see what may be holding them back before they can be coached toward their future goals.
“By offering both services, I can meet clients where they’re at and help them work through whatever it is that is preventing them from growing,” she said.
For men, she offers a six-month program called Find Your Inner Awesome, to help them kickstart their lives. For women, she has developed “Ignite Your Inner Goddess,” a one-on-one coaching program for women who want to live happier, healthier lives — as well as attract the right partners.
“They are both deeply transformational, client-centered programs where participants go back and learn about themselves, heal past wounds, and work on the next level of success, confidence, happiness, and start accomplishing their goals,” Kendra said. “It’s not for the faint of heart, as I like to take people out of their comfort zones, but it’s rewarding for those who take the plunge.”
Kendra is also working on a new women’s empowerment group called the Self Love Sisterhood and is planning to hold meetings locally. The inspiration for the group was her own experience of moving to Vancouver and having trouble finding friends. Eventually, she connected with women who helped her — and she wants to return the favor through Self Love Sisterhood.
“It’s a space where like-minded women can find friendship, transformation, support, and fun,” she said. “They will learn about self-love, self-care, healthy relationships, boundaries, confidence, and more. I want women to find friendships with substance, authenticity, and connection. It will be a place where women can lift each other up and feel a sense of love and belonging.”
She hopes the group finds enough success to expand to other cities — and even online. In the meantime, those outside the Vancouver area can still benefit from her friendly advice by reading her blog.
“I’m always working on new content for both men and women on dating, relationships, self-care, and self-love,” she said. “The feedback I receive is extremely fulfilling. Helping people find their passion, is my passion.”