How Do I Get Him to Pop the Question?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

How do I get him to pop the question?

-Christina (Maryland)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Newsflash ladies! Women can’t GET a man to do anything. He has to come to that decision by himself. But you can affect the things that help him make the decision.

If you are giving him a maintenance-free relationship complete with sex and playing-house together, he has absolutely no motivation to get married. Figure out what your timeline is. Tell him clearly. Don’t nag.

And if he doesn’t make your deadline, make some bold actions toward slowing down the relationship. Men don’t respond to words as much as they respond to behavior.

Are you brave enough to demand more than a low-criteria relationship?

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