How Do I Politely End a Date When I Know the Person is Not for Me?

Bethany Heinesh

Written by: Bethany Heinesh

Bethany Heinesh

Bethany has ghost-written hundreds of dating articles in the last 10 years for relationship experts all over the United States.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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We’ve all been there – the dreaded first date and a bad first date at that! If you’ve found yourself in a situation where you realize the person isn’t the one for you, you can politely end the date. There’s no sense in wasting either of your time if you get a red flag early on.

Remember, it is wise to meet someone at a public place for a first date. That way, you can leave in your own car if you so desire. There’s nothing wrong with saying, “It has been very nice meeting you, but I can tell this is going nowhere fast. Here’s money to cover my meal.” I believe the best way to handle this situation is to be frank. Don’t lie and make up some excuse to get outta there. It’s bad relationship karma.

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