How To Get A Guy To Like You

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How to Get a Guy to Like You

Lauren Hostert

Written by: Lauren Hostert

Lauren Hostert

Lauren is just about 24 now and thinks that age has brought a little clarity. She is in the dating scene but not to the point where sometimes she knows better. It's an interesting phase. Of her three best friends: one is married, one in a relationship and one is trolloping around Europe. That all seems normal to Lauren, who said she is less judgmental than she used to be. At a certain point, you realize most people are just on different paths to the same end.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Getting a guy to like you can be one of the most ponderous aspects of dating. There are no patent guarantees because preferences vary so much from person to person. Here are a few general guidelines to help you feel confident in a variety of situations.

1. Be confident not cocky.

This is probably the most overused bit of dating advice ever, but cliches often end up that way for a reason. Be talkative but spend more time asking questions than talking about yourself.

People love talking about themselves. Just be careful not to get too Lisa Ling on them. It’s a conversation, not an interview.

It’s good not to take yourself too seriously, but try not to be too self-deprecating. Don’t come off as fishing for compliments.

2. Don’t be dramatic.

Guys, by and large, don’t go for drama. Difficult situations are a part of life and certainly part of a relationship, but try to keep them at bay when you’re first getting to know each other.

Try and keep whatever issues your friends are having from bleeding over onto you. Don’t leave your girls in a bad situation, but don’t spend your night being a mother hen. Let them dance on the table. They can untag the photos the next day.

Also, it seems pretty obvious but don’t bring up an ex. Even if it’s just conversational or seems innocuous, it sets a weird tone bringing them up so early.

3. Play it a little cool.

Sometimes you just need to channel your inner Fonzie. Don’t be dismissive or too aloof, but don’t be needy. Avoid fishing for compliments, even if you think you’re making a joke and, don’t come on too strong.

That said, make your feelings known. Be flirtatious, make eye contact, and make sure he knows you’re paying attention to him.

It’s difficult to balance showing your interest and playing it cool, so be aware of body language and cues to help let you know if you’re on the right track.

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