The Lifestyle Platform Made For and By the Non-Monogamous Community

The Short Version: Kasidie is an online social community that simplifies connections for people interested in swinging, ENM, kink, and other non-monogamous lifestyles. Founders Scott and Nicoleta Purcell talked to us about why they founded the website, some of its features, and how it is redefining digital connections for non-monogamous daters.

Every dating app has special features and mechanisms that make it stand out from the rest. But each also has its own cultural reputation, which can influence who uses the app and how they use it.

For example, many younger daters view Tinder as a more casual dating platform compared to something like Hinge, which was purposefully “designed to be deleted.” This isn’t to say you can’t find love on Tinder or a hookup on Hinge, but where you go is going to impact your online dating experience.

If you’re a dater outside the average dating pool, choosing an app that caters to your niche is going to work in your favor. If you live a non-monogamous lifestyle, selecting the right platform is essential. Some apps don’t allow couples to make profiles together– doing so could even get you banned.

Not to mention, many dating apps don’t center on community-building. Depending on their lifestyle, many non-monogamous individuals and couples seek strong and established communities of like-minded people who are also engaging in non-monogamy. 

Non-monogamous dating platforms are about more than finding dates– they also connect people to events, groups, and communities. 

Non-monogamous lifestyles are best experienced and explored with a trusted platform that caters to ENM dater’s unique needs. Kasidie is a dating platform made for the non-monogamous community by people who are a part of it. 

We talked to the founders of Kasidie, Scott and Nicoleta Purcell, about their experience in non-monogamy and their inspiration for starting the platform. The couple wanted to create Kasidie after realizing that non-monogamous individuals didn’t have a platform that was made by people who lived the lifestyle.

“We felt it’s important that people can express their sexuality and find fulfillment in ways that are specific to them as individuals, and with their partner or partners,” Scott said. “Kasidie is an outlet for exploring non-monogamy in a safe and ethical way.”

Scott and Nicoleta have been participating in the lifestyle, also known as swinging, for several years. Scott said before he met Nicoleta, he had been exploring different aspects of non-monogamous dating.

“I was always dating a number of women at the same time, and I was always very open and honest about that,” Scott said. “I was just never monogamous. I dated a few women who introduced me to swinger parties.”

Scott enjoyed the swinger parties and made connections within swinging communities. When Nicoleta and Scott started dating, Scott introduced Nicoleta to the parties. Scott said he used online platforms and boards to find parties, but it was challenging to find a group they fit into.

“One of the first swinger parties we went to was not right for us,” Scott said. “They weren’t quite our people, and it ended up being uncomfortable and awkward. I did better research to make sure the next party would be more our speed– and actually fun.”

Scott said they found a platform they liked for finding events, but there was a functional flaw. “We were on another site that really served the community, but the people who were running it and their staff weren’t actually in the lifestyle, they were just profiting off it.”

Scott and Nicoleta wanted to create a platform that was effective in organizing events, but also catered to the unique needs of people in the lifestyle. “In non-monogamy, people are very different, even between couples, and sites need to be specific, not general,” Scott said.

Kasidie enables people on the spectrum of non-monogamy to find connections and events that work for them. Scott and Nicoleta’s inside knowledge of the lifestyle enabled them to give the platform features that non-monogamous daters need.

Kasidie offers a space where users can create detailed profiles, share their experiences, and connect with others who share similar interests and values. The platform emphasizes a supportive and non-judgmental digital environment.

Scott said privacy and discretion are priorities on Kasidie. Some users turn to Kasidie as their first exploration of non-monogamy, and they often value anonymity on the platform. 

Profiles do not require real names and the platform has various privacy tools, including blocking, disabling notifications, and removing your profile from search results.

Users can use Kasidie to find whatever kind of connection they’re looking for, whether it’s a swinger party or a one-night stand. The Connect Instantly feature is perfect for users looking to meet others quickly. It allows users to connect with people who share their interests and values with just a few simple clicks. 

Kasidie allows users to create group chats, share their travel plans, and post event listings. Kasidie’s blog offers great resources for people exploring non-monogamy, including articles that explore the ins and outs of swinging, the hotwife lifestyle, and BDSM and kink.

Users can connect with others based on desire, whether they’re looking for couples, groups, or kink play. Kasidie’s event listings feature events across the United States and the globe, including cruises, resorts, and other travel options.

Nicoleta said that while Kasidie allows all users to explore and reach out, the site emphasizes a women-centric lifestyle. “It is driven by the women,” she said. “And we keep it real in the community. People have to get certified to attend parties or write in forums.”

Before the internet, people often found out about swinging parties through word-of-mouth. Scott and Nicoleta kept that concept close to the heart of Kasidie. 

“We built the site from the ground up through word-of-mouth,” Nicoleta said. We don’t have marketing campaigns or paid advertising—members referring other members is how we’ve grown.”

Navigating the non-monogamous lifestyle can be challenging, especially for newcomers. Scott said finding like-minded communities makes the process simpler and more enjoyable. Kasidie prides itself on a supportive and privacy-minded user base that’s looking for authentic non-monogamy experiences.

Users can learn from the experiences of others and gain insights about the lifestyle from the people who live it. “On Kasidie there is a huge diversity in our membership– all genders, sexualities, orientations– and we’re going to keep growing with that,” Scott said.

Scott and Nicoleta said out of all the things Kasidie offers to non-monogamous daters, one feature of the platform stands out: its openness.

“There’s a liberating effect of not being tied to these societal constructs of monogamy, especially if they’re causing friction and unhappiness in people’s lives,” Scott said. “Our hope is that it continues to become more accepted.”