Should I Ask a Guy for His Number?

Bethany Heinesh

Written by: Bethany Heinesh

Bethany Heinesh

Bethany has ghost-written hundreds of dating articles in the last 10 years for relationship experts all over the United States.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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I recognize that in many ways I’m old fashioned. I believe, as a rule, men should initiate the “firsts” in a relationship. He should call you first, ask you out first, kiss you first and definitely say “I love you” first. But rules are meant to be broken and there are always exceptions.

If you meet a guy you’re into, flirt with him to let him know you’re interested. Usually, the guy will ask you for your number before the end of the conversation. If he doesn’t, however, I believe it is OK to ask a man for his number. Then wait at least a day before calling him. This trick doesn’t work on women, but it’s good to make a man wait for you so you don’t seem clingy.

When you call him and get to talk to him, see where the conversation goes. If he digs you, he will most certainly promise to call you the following day and actually do it. If he doesn’t, do not call him. If you get his voicemail, leave a message with your name and number. If he doesn’t call you back, do not call him.

Using the phone can be tricky. If you’re not comfortable calling him, text messages are a great alternative, and men really respond to them. It takes a lot of pressure off and can be a great lead in to one of you picking up the phone and calling the other.

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