The Psychic Matchmaker Deborah Graham Reads Peoples Energies Connects Them To The Needs Of Heart

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The Psychic Matchmaker Deborah Graham Reads People’s Energies & Connects Them to the Needs of the Heart

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The Short Version: Love is a mystery, but not to Deborah Graham, psychic matchmaker. She has a gift for looking into her clients’ souls and seeing what’s stopping them from finding their soul mates. Deborah offers private and confidential psychic readings that get to the heart of who people are and what they can do to improve their relationships. In 2016, the professional psychic wrote a no-nonsense dating guide called “Get Your Head Out of Your App” to tout her takeaways in matters of the heart. Plus, in her weekly radio show, Deborah answers love-related questions for callers across the country and serves as an inspiration for singles feeling stuck in negative patterns. Deborah has spent decades giving soulful advice to people of all ages and has built a reputation as a relationship expert of extraordinary depth and understanding.

A good restaurant offers a smorgasbord of temptation and distraction to delight diners, but sometimes that menu of appetizers, entrees, and desserts can actually be a hindrance to happiness.

You may go in thinking you want a steak, for instance, but then you flip through the menu and start to waver. The chicken looks good. Or maybe fish. When the waiter comes, you may abandon your original plan and order something that doesn’t quite satisfy you. Because, at the end of the day, it isn’t what you came to the restaurant for, and it’s not what you truly want.

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Psychic matchmaker Deborah Graham has decades of experience giving readings and advice.

That’s how psychic matchmaker Deborah Graham sees the modern dating landscape — overrun with choices that lead singles off the path they know in their hearts is right for them. Her job as a psychic matchmaker is to bring people back on track and guide them toward true fulfillment in life.

“I don’t look at you; I look in you,” she said. “I’m looking in your soul to connect you with your soul mate.”

Deborah got her start over 24 years ago when she met a 70-something widower who wanted a new lease on life. He came to her for a general reading, but she sensed something more in store for him. She decided to introduce him to another client, a widow, who had a similar energy about her. Deborah scheduled them for an appointment on the same day and purposefully arranged it so they had to wait together and get to know one another.

During their separate readings, she told them she wanted to play matchmaker with them, and they both agreed to a date. On one condition: She had to chaperon. So the three of them went out for lunch, and the couple hit it off. Six months later, they were married.

They stayed together for five years, and, before he passed away, Deborah’s client told her that her help was a gift from God. He saw the psychic as his guardian angel because she had led him to some of the happiest years of his life.

After that experience, Deborah knew what the purpose of her gifts should be, and she began offering her services as a psychic matchmaker for singles seeking profound connections in their lives. Unlike a traditional matchmaker, Deborah seeks to tap into the deeper, unspoken nature of a person’s heart and guide her clients on the way toward long-lasting spiritual satisfaction.

“You don’t have to tell me anything,” she said. “Your soul speaks to me without you saying a word.”

Sharing Her Gift With Singles Ranging in Age From 25 to 75

Deborah works with clients of all ages, from 25 to 75, and from all different backgrounds, from big-time executives to grocery store clerks. No matter who you are, the psychic matchmaker can read your aura and show you what’s blocking you in your path to love. Whether you’re hoping to reconnect with a lost love or discover what romance the future holds, Deborah can offer her insights over the phone, via Skype, or in person. She sees clients from around the globe and connects with their energies to offer personal advice.

“I don’t need to look at you or touch you — I just need to feel your energy,” she said. “So I’d say about 99% of my clients come to me by phone.”

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Deborah told us that about 90% of her clients end up in relationships after seeing her.

For some clients, working with Deborah was a life-changing experience. One woman was a 60-year-old virgin, deathly afraid of getting hurt or rejected, when she came to the psychic matchmaker for help.

The single woman had lived a sheltered life — not going to prom, not dating anybody, and not being true to her emotional needs — because she’d seen the heartache of divorce in her parents and siblings and didn’t want to fall into the same pattern.

Deborah told her the lives of her family had nothing to do with her life, and she could have better if she only tried for it. The woman took that advice to heart, made that leap of faith, and ended up married to a wonderful man.

To this day, Deborah considers that her biggest success story because the woman went from feeling so alone and scared in her life to meeting her other half and sustaining a committed relationship with him. The psychic matchmaker takes a lot of pride in her successes and works hard to spread her guidance to as many people as she can.

“That’s my fuel for life,” she told us. “I work 18 hours a day because I love my job, and the more I give, the more I receive.”

“Get Your Head Out of Your App” Offers Wise Dating Advice

Many of today’s daters go through life glued to their phones, forever swiping in a search for the next greatest thing. But, in doing so, they miss out on what’s right in front of them. Deborah has seen this pattern all too often in her clients, so she wrote a self-help book to inspire daters to get off their phones and into relationships.

Get Your Head Out of Your App” explores how to stop swiping and start truly connecting with dates on a deep and satisfying level. Her focus is on helping readers establish long-term relationships. She advocates against common date saboteurs, such as going to a bar on a date, and promotes a more thoughtful and purposeful approach to love.

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In “Get Your Head Out of Your App,” Deborah outlines several tried-and-true relationship rules.

In her book, Deborah outlines her signature Rule of Three, which encourages singles to go out on three dates with one person before deciding if you want to pursue a relationship. According to the book, singles shouldn’t be too quick to dismiss someone because those first-date jitters can sometimes throw a person off his or her game.

“You need to give yourself enough time to really connect with someone,” Deborah said. “Try to cut through that first date awkwardness and get as much out of the other person as you can. Don’t talk too much about yourself; focus on getting to know your date.”

Another part of Deborah’s Rule of Three is not to get intimate until you’ve been dating for at least three months. That ensures that both parties are committed to something longer lasting and makes for a more satisfying connection when you do choose to take that step. In her experience, couples who remain celibate for the first few months build stronger relationships that can last a lifetime.

Her last takeaway for singles is simple: Give it your all. “If you really want to date, you have to make time for dating,” Deborah said. “People want it to just happen and be easy, but life isn’t easy. You have to have patience and work at it.”

Reaching Even More Hearts & Minds in Her Weekly Radio Show

Deborah has recently launched a weekly radio show on Sirius Radio to expand her reach. During short segments, she answers callers’ questions about love and relationships by drawing from her insights into who they are and what they want.

“Through my radio shows, I’m able to reach so many people and give them hope,” she said. “I give them takeaways for where they need to be and what they need to change to find love and happiness.”

Whether you’re struggling to move on from a bad relationship or hoping for inspiration in your single life, you can listen to Deborah’s pep talks to gain a new and enlightening perspective on love. Deborah is a straight-shooter and dispenses transformational advice with an upbeat tone.

“She just knows me and knows things that nobody else can know,” said Tamara in a TLC television segment. Tamara had listened to Deborah’s radio show and then came to her for love-oriented readings. The psychic matchmaker encouraged the recently divorced single to let go of unhealthy relationships and believe that she would find someone better down the line.

“I love helping people come out of their shells,” she told us. “Because you can get so wrapped up in your mind that you forget to love the one you’re with — yourself.”

Deborah Graham Unearths What Really Matters in Life

When you’re going about your day, surrounded by flashy distractions and sweet temptations, it’s easy to lose sight of what you want and how to get it. Even if you enter that restaurant convinced you want a steak, you might get sidetracked or discouraged and miss out on your own satisfaction.

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Deborah Graham opens people’s hearts to the romantic possibilities of the future.

That’s not good enough for Deborah Graham. She got into business as a psychic matchmaker to remind people what their spirits need and want.

If you’re open to her advice, she can truly transform your outlook on love and life. Her readings, book, and radio show provide soulful guidance for singles who have lost their way. Ultimately, Deborah’s job is to tell people what they need to hear so they can make healthy relationship decisions in line with their own hearts and minds.

“It’s within you,” she said. “You have the power to fix it. I just read the vibrations to see where you’ll go.”

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