5 Simple Ways to Find “Lesbians Near Me” (Online & Offline)

Lesbian Dating

5 Simple Ways to Find “Lesbians Near Me” (Online & Offline)

Hayley Matthews Hayley Matthews

If you’re a lesbian and you’ve been single for a while (like can’t-remember-the-last-time-you-went-on-a-date while), trying to meet someone new, even in the smallest of towns, can feel daunting and frustrating — to say the least. But you’re not alone. We get tons of requests from women all over the country asking us how to meet other lesbians nearby, and we have a variety of helpful recommendations.

You no longer have to wonder where to meet “lesbians near me” because here are the five quickest and easiest ways — whether you’re looking online or offline for a date.

1. Try Online Dating

Most of us know someone who’s found a date or partner online. In my case, I have a friend who’s in a new relationship with a great woman she was matched with on a dating site. No matter what you’re looking for, our top three picks, with their location-based matching and filtering features, will help you find it.

Here are more details about each one:


Relationships: Friends, Dates, and Relationships

Match System: Browse by zip, age, appearance, more

Our Experts Say: “More than a million lesbian women in the US are looking for dates and relationships on Match, making it the best site for this audience...” Full Review »

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The sheer size of Match.com (13.3 million vistors a month) means you’ll find more lesbians near you than you’ll know what to do with.


Relationships: Fun Dates, Serious Relationships

Match System: Search and get match recommendations

Our Experts Say: “Zoosk is a go-to for busy lesbian women because the site will do all the work for them. All they have to do is upload some information and photos...” Full Review »

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Zoosk.com is one of our favorite apps to meet lesbians because its integration with Facebook and Google+ make signup a breeze.


Relationships: Dates and Relationships

Match System: Search by profiles by zip and more

Our Experts Say: “Exclusively for ages 50 and older, OurTime is only meant for singles who are 50+, but besides that, its membership comes from all backgrounds and lives all kinds of lifestyles...” Full Review »

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Lesbians over 50 will do really well on OurTime.com, as it’s got the targeted demographic they’re looking for.

2. Take Part in LGBT-Exclusive Activities

Whether it’s a film/music festival, pride rally, or kickball league, there are tons of lesbian- or LGBT-specific events going on all the time. Meetup.com is a fantastic resource to find lesbians near you. Just choose your city, specify the type of meetup you want (e.g, “lesbian social”), and go!

3. Help Out at Local LGBTQ Nonprofits & Organizations

Volunteering for a local LGBTQ-friendly nonprofit, human rights organization, or charity is a win-win situation: you get to do something good for your community and be around people who have similar beliefs and values. Places like PFLAG have chapters in hundreds, if not thousands, of cities.

Photo of Ruby Rose volunteering

Volunteerism can put you in touch with tons of caring and driven women.

Dedicate some of your free time to volunteering for LGBT charities in your area. Who knows, you could meet your own Ruby Rose!

4. Go to Lesbian Bars and Clubs

If you don’t already know about the LGBTQ-friendly clubs and bars in your town, this is where your trusty friend Google comes in handy. Type in “lesbian bar [your city],” see what comes up, and check out the reviews to see which one would be best for you.

Even if you’re not a big partier, you can still go out for low-key activities like trivia, battle of the bands, or karaoke. If you can’t find a lesbian bar or club in your part of town, you can look on the calendar of a popular bar to see when it hosts ladies nights, drag shows, live concerts, and other lesbian-friendly events.

5. Have Your Friends Set You Up

No one knows the real you, as well as what you’re looking for in a date or partner, more than your friends do, so put them in the driver’s seat every now and then. From co-workers to family members to roller derby teammates, at least one of your friends has someone in mind who would be perfect for you. And don’t forget the power of yes.

Photo of a lesbian couple on a date

Your friends know you best, so let them set you up with someone who they think you’re perfect for.

It’s simple: the more you get out there, the more people you’ll be introduced to and the more likely you are to meet lesbians near you.

Ready to Head Out?!

It can be difficult to meet lesbian women who are attractive, available, and local. You have to be proactive and try as many avenues and strategies as possible to make something work.

Now that you’ve got several different options to choose from, you can stop frustratingly asking yourself “How do I find single lesbians near me?” and start excitedly asking “Which route am I going to take first?” Go get em!

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