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Match Chief Dating Expert Rachel DeAlto Shares Advice for Avoiding Burnout (Feb. 2024)

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The Short Version: It takes a lot of strength to get back into the dating scene after feeling burnt out. From what to say to who to date, singles can get caught up trying to figure out the whole dating scene alone. That’s why having a dating expert by your side is helpful. Match Chief Dating Expert Rachel DeAlto shares resourceful tips on the dating app Match on how to avoid burnout and start dating in a new and effective way. For over 25 years, Rachel and the Match experts have paved the way for singles to find love with millions of success stories to attest to their credibility. 

Today’s dating landscape challenges singles to adapt to new ways of meeting people and building connections. Singles can use dating apps to shift through countless profiles, figure out the perfect icebreaker, connect through text conversations, and then (hopefully) meet up IRL. It can be difficult to foster meaningful relationships this way, and unfortunately, that can sometimes lead to burnout. 

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Match has been helping singles since 1995.

To avoid burnout, the dating app Match actively looks for new ways to help singles succeed in their dating lives. Singles can benefit from learning the fundamentals of good dating habits and what to look for in a potential partner. Launched in April of 1995, Match was designed to create more romantic opportunities for singles who want to date differently.

As complex and exhausting as love can be, it’s worth pursuing even through trial and error. If they have support and knowledge, anyone can find their happily ever after. It’s just a matter of time and having the right tools to get there. Match Chief Dating Expert, Rachel DeAlto discovered through research and observation that singles tend to do better in their relationships when they receive the proper guidance.  

Rachel has learned from experience that daters’ needs and wants for a partner have changed over the years. People can create high expectations for #relationshipgoals that may not be realistic. If daters don’t get the results they want right away, it’s not uncommon for them to feel burnt out. That’s why Rachel encourages singles to invest the time to seek professional help to figure out how they can push through difficulties and foster a healthy relationship.

“Professional coaching is extremely helpful for daters. Often we’ve had to rely on our friends listening to us and guiding us while dating, but having a professional who is there to lend an ear and an unbiased opinion can be a great asset for those feeling overwhelmed by dating,” said Rachel. 

The Match team understands the important role that professional coaches play for members of the app. Most of the time, singles just want to talk about their love lives with someone who has their best interest at heart. Rachel told us that’s why Match offers Expert Picks to help daters navigate the dating process in a way that feels supported and effective. 

Education is the Key to Dating Success 

Problems are bound to surface in dating and relationships and when they do, couples need to know how to solve them. Couples can use dating tips found on the site from Match coaches to help guide them through the bumpy roads in their relationship. 

Match believes education is the key to dating success — and singles need to come equipped with the right mindset to get positive results. 

Rachel told us that there are so many things that are going on in the world that can increase the level of stress for many people. This can influence the way people date and how successful they are in finding true love. 

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Match help singles discover who and what they want out of a partner.

“We create romantic opportunities so singles are more likely to find someone special. Over the years, we’ve learned more and more about what people want — and the tools they need to help take the lottery out of love. With more ways than ever to bring singles together, we’ve come a long way since 1995,” said the Match team. 

Match experts have learned that singles connect in a more meaningful way when they have freedom of expression. An open-ended dating profile leaves room for them to feel welcome to show off who they truly are. App users can express themselves through various free writing sections and swipe through listed profiles based on their preferences. That not only makes it easier for them to navigate the many but find a person they’re interested in. Profiles can include up to 26 photos along with captions that help showcase who they are.  

“Studies have shown that swiping and making connections releases dopamine in our brains. We get excited about the possibility of finding our match. In terms of how we form relationships, that excitement can translate into hope, which continues to grow when you have a great date,” said Rachel. 

How to Recover From Dating Burnout 

Starting over in the dating world isn’t always easy to do. A lot of people suffer emotionally from breakups and failed dates or ghosted conversations. It can feel discouraging having to hype yourself up to meet someone new. According to Global News Wire, nearly 4 out of 5 adults between the ages of 18 to 54, experienced some degree of emotional fatigue or burnout from online dating in 2022. 

It’s good to take breaks from dating to emotionally prepare yourself for love. Rachel suggests singles give themselves time and space away from dating to refocus and self-reflect. She told us that great daters know how to take care of themselves and consistently do things for themselves to help them feel good. 

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There are plenty of members on the app that singles can meet and mingle with.

The first step to recover from dating burnout is to evaluate your needs and wants in a relationship. This way you’re able to identify what you want out of a partnership and recognize those traits when mingling with others. 

“It is always OK to take a break. We can’t pour from an empty cup, and we certainly shouldn’t date when we feel super stressed and burnt out,” Rachel told us. “We don’t have to be perfect to try and find our match, but it’s best to be in a space that allows you to enjoy dating and remain excited about possibilities.” 

Match prioritizes members’ safety and privacy. To ensure that all members feel comfortable and safe on the app, communication between members is done through an anonymous email network. The best part is that members’ names and contact information are kept confidential. Singles who want to share their information with a potential match can do so on their own time and terms. Every profile and photo is screened through Match’s customer care team to ensure that everyone is abiding by the community guidelines.  

Match Offers Professional Coaching for Daters

The beautiful thing about love is that there’s enough for everyone to go around. And thanks to the Match professional coaches, singles don’t have to go looking for Cupid in hopes of finding their significant other. Rachel and the Match team believe that love is contagious and that everyone deserves to experience it. 

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Through professional coaching, singles gain a better understanding on how to connect.

With professional coaching, singles get the opportunity to identify key things about themselves that they never knew. Learning about your relationship patterns and compatibility expectations can help your dating journey significantly. 

Rachel advises singles to know their limits when it comes to dating. She encourages them not to look at dating as if it were a job. Instead, dating should happen organically and not be scheduled as if it were a 9-to-5. Rachel told us that she has known singles who overdate and end up feeling exhausted. That’s why she encourages them to be selective and find people who they truly look forward to spending time with. 

By coaching singles this way, Match has and will continue to flourish all over the world. The Match app is available in 50 countries and territories around the world, and maintains websites in 15 different languages — and it’s not stopping there. “I can now say, without reservation, that I’ve found my adventure partner for life,” said Match couple, Heather and Jake in a testimonial.

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