Neumate A Groundbreaking Local Dating Site With A Robust Community

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Neumate: A Groundbreaking Local Online Dating Site Offering a Robust Community for Singles to Socialize & Meet

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Written by: Amber Brooks

Amber Brooks

Amber Brooks is the Editor-in-Chief at When she was growing up, her family teased her for being "boy crazy," but she preferred to think of herself as a budding dating and relationship expert. As an English major in college, Amber honed her communication skills to write clearly, knowledgeably, and passionately about a variety of subjects. Now with over 1,800 lifestyle articles to her name, Amber brings her tireless wit and relatable experiences to She has been quoted by the Washington Times, Cosmopolitan, The New York Post, and AskMen.

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The Short Version: connects singles using a straightforward, intuitive, and user-friendly local community approach. In the simplest terms, the site replicates real-world social dynamics accurately and therefore encourages natural social interactions. You can create a Neumate profile in a matter of minutes and start seeking your ideal date using advanced search filters. Once you’ve found someone worth messaging, you can activate a Token (which only costs $1) to send an unlimited number of messages within a 24-hour window and also participate in Groups. Plus, you can gift a Token (think of it as buying someone a drink) to empower your crush to read your messages and reply. With such affordable tools, Neumate offers a hassle-free dating environment for singles who are interested in meeting local singles.

Generally, meeting people online is not like meeting people at a bar. Online dating sites often pressure singles to subscribe, make a snap judgment about people, and swipe for hours on end, which can foster inauthentic conversations between people brought together by algorithms instead of by choice.

Whereas, at the bar, everyone can just hang out and look for a date using their own judgment. They don’t have to pay for the opportunity to look around. They don’t need to follow an intricate matching process. They can just walk up to someone and say, “Hey, can I buy you a drink?”

Many singles still prefer going out to meet people at the bar because it offers a low-pressure space they can’t find on the typical dating site or app. However, Neumate isn’t typical. This dating site offers a high-tech and low-cost dating environment for single men and women looking to connect with someone special.

Screenshot of Neumate's homepage

Neumate’s intuitive design empowers singles to navigate the dating community with ease.

Neumate doesn’t use fancy algorithms to tell people who to like. Instead, the state-of-the-art dating site provides a straightforward, accessible, and friendly platform where singles feel empowered to make their own decisions and pursue local date prospects in privacy. Everyone you see on the site will be from your geographic area because Neumate keeps its local communities distinct from one another — thus assuring that users don’t waste time pining after out-of-towners.

The founders of Neumate have built a website that replicates the real-world social dynamics of a bar. People are local, striking up a conversation is cheap, and everyone comes away having a great time. The fundamentals behind every feature and function are that singles are the experts on who they want to date, and all they need is a dating site that will get out of their way and facilitate conversation as naturally and affordably as possible without putting any timing stresses (swipe now/subscription ending) on the users.

Today, Neumate is setting a “neu standard” for online dating by putting user experience first and bringing all the fun of real-world social interactions to a gimmick-free online space.

Neumate Works on Your Budget & Schedule By Offering Tokens

Signing up to Neumate is a snap. You input your email address, date of birth, and community (the site is currently available in 80 major US cities) and then click “Join.” Note that you can’t change communities once you join, and you won’t see members from other cities, so make sure the city you select is where you want to find dates.

You don’t have to undergo a lengthy psychological evaluation or write an autobiography to complete your profile. All Neumate asks for is basic stats, a short headline, and optional details about yourself, your ideal date, and your first date ideas. A photo is also optional, but we strongly encourage uploading at least one pic because it lends legitimacy to dating profiles.

Once you’re a member, you can search for matches by a variety of criteria — including relationship status, appearance, interests, education, faith, political views, occupation, income, and astrological sign. You can save your favorite searches, so you don’t have to input the same information again and again. Plus, you can also search by username. Only profiles that have been active on the site within the last 90 days will appear in the search results.

Screenshot of Neumate's search filters

Neumate has plenty of helpful online filters to help you narrow down your search for a dream date.

If you see someone you like, you can buy Tokens to send unlimited messages for a day or become a subscribed member to send unlimited messages to your online crushes for the duration of your subscription. Each Token is worth 24 hours of premium access to the dating site — meaning you can send and read messages as well as post in Groups. You can gift a Token to someone you like to ensure that person can read and respond to the message you send him or her. Tokens only cost $1 each, so it’s a uniquely affordable way to chat up singles online.

Users can also choose to subscribe for a one-month, three-month, six-month, or one-year Neumate membership plan, which includes unlimited messaging, a certain number of Tokens based on your selected subscription, and full participation in Groups. Neumate won’t pressure or bother users to subscribe because the team believes the value of the subscription plans speaks for itself. It’s not complicated. It’s not a bait-and-switch game — if you want to talk to Neumate members, you have plenty of reasonably priced options that work for any schedule.

And you don’t have to worry about your subscription automatically charging your credit card. Members must click a button if they want their subscriptions to auto renew; otherwise the default is to not automatically charge customers for services they didn’t ask for. On Neumate, the user experience comes first.

For example, Neumate doesn’t tempt members with extra features in exchange for money. All features come for free with the site, and it only costs money if you want to communicate with other members or participate in Groups on the dating site. The flexibility of Neumate’s payment options gives each user more control of their experience, so they can get more value and online date on their terms.

Nixing Dishonest Sales Tactics & Pushy Match Suggestions

The Neumate team has parsed online dating down to its essentials and gotten rid of a lot of unnecessary obstacles, distractions, and clutter. You won’t see ads, promotions, or sponsored content on the dating site. You won’t find blog posts or success stories. You won’t even see testimonials from couples — because the dating site values user privacy and the team doesn’t think reading about anyone else’s success will help you reach your own goals.

Neumate is designed to help people meet potential dates. That’s it. Its local community approach and advanced search tools direct singles to compatible dates based on their stated preferences, and the site doesn’t prioritize subscribers over free members or new members over seasoned online daters. Every active member is on equal footing with one another at all times.

Searching and finding compatible local singles is straightforward — if you want a certain type of date, enter your criteria and click search. If you see someone you like, you can express interest by sending a message, poking them, liking their photos, liking their date idea, or gifting them a Token, which is similar to asking the bartender to send them a drink. Neumate doesn’t force singles to swipe based on superficial information (like a photo), and it doesn’t send algorithmic auto-matched suggestions that presume to know what the user wants in a date.

The closest thing it has to a matching feature is the Neu Faces area on the Dashboard, which displays new members in the gender and age range you seek, as you specify in your profile. This feature recommends new date prospects based on the data you provide on your profile. On Neumate, you have control over your online dating experience.

Screenshot of Neumate's payment plans

Neumate’s pay-as-you-go Token system makes sending messages on the site more cost-effective.

Neumate doesn’t promise to be anything more than an easy-to-use, convenient, and opportunity-rich environment for singles looking to meet someone and potentially find a romantic connection.

The design and development team has rigorously thought out every aspect of Neumate’s interface from its clutter-free browsing to its privacy policy. They have invested an enormous amount of time into honing the dating site and making it as sleek and efficient as possible. The result is a streamlined social space where users can navigate their own way to a first date.

But you don’t have to take our word for it. You can join and see for yourself. Creating a profile is free, quick, and easy, and there’s no pressure to subscribe.

The Activity Feed Organizes Your Experience & Facilitates Authentic Interactions Online

In the real world, if you glance at someone while hanging out at the bar, the bar doesn’t collect that information and sell it to other bar patrons or use it to suggest a pairing with someone else. Neither does Neumate. You can browse the dating site as much as you want without worrying about that information being recorded and used to influence you or others.

Your Dashboard, the first page upon login, organizes and displays activity in your Activity Feed, including the latest likes, pokes, and messages, while also featuring public profile updates from favorited members and favorited Group activity. It’s basically a summary of everything going on in the Neumate community that impacts you.

You can also switch to Private Mode if you want to browse anonymously. Private profiles do not show up in search results, online lists, Group favorites, or activity feeds.

Screenshot of the Dashboad on Neumate

WIWA (While I Was Away…) gets you back in the know every time you log in.

The Founders of Neumate understand that attraction often takes time to develop and forcing romantic decisions with a quick swipe isn’t always a helpful or realistic way to connect people online. For that reason, they developed a low-key Groups section where members can converse about interesting topics in a social atmosphere. This adds a new dimension to the dating site. Local singles can hang out here and build friendships based on common interests. Who knows where the conversation might lead? It’s a natural way to find potential dates who share your love of yoga or cooking.

If things are going well and you want to continue the conversation more privately, you can send a message along with (or without) a Token to that someone special. Neumate’s Messenger facilitates real-time, instant-messenger-style chatting in your browser on any PC or mobile device so nothing stands between you and your online crush. On a PC, the chat shows up on the side bar, so it doesn’t interfere with your browsing experience; on a mobile device, the chat window will take up your full screen while you are conversing with someone. You can communicate at your leisure using any device on the mobile-friendly dating site.

Neumate is an Equal Playing Field for Modern Daters

Seasoned web experts in Houston, Texas, decided to revolutionize the online dating industry by launching a dating site like no other. Neumate offers a natural and intuitive online community where singles can meet, socialize, and build authentic connections without any meddling from the site itself. It’s like meeting people at the bar, except you have thousands more date opportunities at your fingertips and a vast array of tools to let you hone in on your preferences.

Unlike its competitors, Neumate isn’t trying to change or limit natural social dynamics. It’s trying to set online daters free by providing a robust community with plenty of features and options to suit everyone.

As the website says, “Neumate thinks that the real you is enough. Search results always reflect actual user preferences, not sponsored profiles or personals, so you can put yourself out there and feel confident that you’re on a level playing field.”

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