3 Tips For Having Anal Sex For The First Time

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3 Tips for Having Anal Sex for the First Time

S.C. Rhyne

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Anal intercourse is one of the least talked about sex acts and probably one of the most taboo.

It is still illegal in some places and associated with homosexuality, even though not all gay men participate in this sex act and it is not uncommon in heterosexual coitus either.

On the other hand, in some cultures anal intercourse was viewed as a way to have sex without compromising female virginity.

Anal sex can be fun and a way to achieve orgasm by indirectly stimulating the G-spot in men and women, as well as other sensory nerves that surround the anal cavity.

You no not need peanut butter or jelly

These two items will not be necessary for your first time exploring the back door to this erotic activity.

You can start off with a firm pillow, silicone-based lubricant and (optional) finger condoms or gloves.

If it is the receptive partner’s first time being inserted through the anus, you will want to start out by fingering.

Half the battle of getting your partner to let you in is based on communication and trust.

You are communicating to your partner exactly what you are doing.

There has to be a significant amount of trust so they know that once you are in, you will not just lose it and go crazy.

Guys, do not expect your partner to agree right away with hardcore penetration. You start at step one to show them how pleasurable it can be.

Thus, have your partner lie on her back and put a small pillow just under her hip. This will help to open up their anatomy.

You can also try the spooning position, as it may create a more intimate and secure mood, as well it will not allow you to go too deep.

Generously apply the lubricant, first around the anus and then coat your fingers (I should mention that you should have your fingernails trimmed with no sharp corners).

Insert about inch and a half to two inches in. For the female receptive partner, indirect clitoral stimulation may also lead orgasm.

When you insert your fingers, guide them toward the pelvic wall to find the perineal sponge – a spongy cushion of nerves on the back wall of the vagina that can provide arousal.

These activities can enjoyed alone or in conjunction with other activities. For example, the female receptive partner can fingered while performing oral sex.

“Exploring other ways to please each other

can be an exciting sexual journey.”

Speaking of oral sex.

There is also anilingus. This is the act of kissing or licking the anus, also more commonly referred to as rimming.

This activity may also bring arousal by stimulating the various nerve endings around the anus and can be used as foreplay leading to anal intercourse.

Your health.

Anal sex is the riskiest sex act when health educators talk about STDs.

Because the anus is smaller than the mouth or vagina, it does not naturally lubricate like the other orifices and is surrounded by many tiny blood vessels which can tear and bleed, providing a doorway for bacteria and viruses.

Thus, the receptive partner is taking the most risk.

First, you should ensure you and your partner know each other’s status. If one partner is HIV positive, you can only contract the virus if blood present during anal sex or if the male partner ejaculates without a condom.

Second, wearing latex condoms or gloves will dramatically reduce the risk of exchanging blood or other body fluids which transmit STIs.

If one partner has a latex allergy, there are nitrile condoms, most notably the female condom.

I actually recommend this condom for anal activities, as it’s a condom worn inside the body and nitrile lasts longer (six to eight hours) than latex.

Third, lubricant. As mentioned before the anus does not naturally lubricate itself like the mouth or vagina can, thus you should be very generous when using lubricant, as this will help prevent tearing and bleeding which can expose you and your partner to STIs or other infections.

Some folks prefer silicone-based lubricant for anal sex than water-based ones (never oil or peanut butter or lotion!)

With anal-oral activity, you can reduce the risk of fecal-oral contact by using a dental dam or thoroughly washing the region to remove any external fecal debris.

Some people will do an enema before sexual activity. However, be cautious to how frequent you are using enemas, as that can be unhealthy.

When doing these activities safely and with a loving partner, exploring other ways to please each other can be an exciting and fulfilling sexual journey.

This is the 101 on anal sex. Until next time, have a mind-blowing voyage!

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