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5 First Date Ideas for Gay Men

Kara Pound

Written by: Kara Pound

Kara Pound

Kara Pound is an award-winning journalist based in St. Augustine, Florida. She holds a bachelor's degree in journalism from Flagler College. Her work has been published in INKED, Natural Awakenings, Design Aglow, Memphis Flyer, Jacksonville Magazine, E/Environmental Magazine, and dozens more. Check out some of Kara's work at karapound.com.

Edited by: Amber Brooks

Amber Brooks

Amber Brooks is a dating and relationship expert who has penned over 1,800 lifestyle articles in the last decade, and she still never tires of interviewing dating professionals and featuring actionable advice for singles. She has been quoted by the Washington Times, Cosmopolitan, The New York Post, and AskMen.

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Whether you’ve been out of the closet for six months or six years, planning a killer first date is a must. After all, you only have one chance to make a great first impression. No matter if this is a blind date or a first one-on-one meeting following an online relationship, here are five first date ideas to knock his socks off.

1. Picnic

Depending on your local terrain, plan a romantic picnic with artisan cheeses, croissants, cured meats and wine. Bring him to a beautiful area of where you live and set it up complete with music and candles. This gives the two of you a lot of quiet time to talk and get to know each other.

2. Museum or Gallery Opening

Even for people who don’t think they’re “artsy,” visiting a museum or gallery opening is not only a way to gain culture, it also helps create dialogue for two people who have never been on a date together. There are conversation starters around every corner!

3. Outdoor Activity

If, and only if, you know your guy enjoys outdoor activities, then plan a hike, a paddle boarding session, a road trip, or bike ride. Follow up with a relaxed dinner at an outdoor cafe — somewhere it won’t matter if the two of you are a little bit sweaty.

4. A Concert

Choosing a concert for a first date can be tricky, but it can also be a “hole in one.” If possible, choose an outdoor concert. Bonus points if you’re allowed to bring a blanket and picnic.

If it has to be an indoor show, then choose something mellow where you can get a few words in over the amps.

5. A Sunset

Be spontaneous and ask him to meet you at the local pier to watch the sunset. Bring a bottle of champagne, something to nosh on and arm yourself with some interesting local history, such as a shipwreck, doomed love affair among sailors or anything cool that’s washed up on the shore. Even if you’re landlocked, I’m sure you can find a park or a nature trail with a good view of the sun setting.

Dare to Go Beyond Coffee or Dinner on Your First Date

First dates can be scary or absolutely amazing. It’s what you make of it. Think outside the box and don’t rely on the traditional dinner and movie or coffee date. That will get stale real quick.

Watch the sunset, visit a local art exhibit, or go for a hike — just put some thought into it.