7 Ways To Deliver A Pickup Line

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7 Ways to Deliver a Pickup Line

Brian Rzepczynski

Written by: Brian Rzepczynski

Brian Rzepczynski

Dr. Brian Rzepczynski, DHS, MSW, is “The Gay Love Coach." To sign up for the FREE Gay Love Coach Newsletter filled with dating and relationship tips and skills for gay singles and couples, as well as to check out current coaching groups, programs and teleclasses, please visit www.TheGayLoveCoach.com.

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Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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One of the most important make-it-or-break-it moments in dating is your introduction when approaching a person you’re interested in getting to know better.

Since first impressions and judgments are formed within the first couple of minutes (or less) of meeting someone, your presentation during your approach is critical in ensuring that hot guy you want to strike up a conversation with reciprocates an interest.

This means what you say, how you say it and how you posture yourself with your body language all carry a lot of weight in how the other guy is going to interpret your advances and the meanings he’ll attribute to it.

You’ll of course want to put your best foot forward to increase your chances of success in charming and hooking him into having a flirtatious chat, and one of the strategies you can employ in heightening your appeal to him is delivering a creative and witty “opening line.”

We’ve all heard of opening lines before. “What’s your sign?” “Haven’t I seen you here before?” Cheesy, right?

Absolutely, and you’re definitely going to want to stay away from these corny sayings that appear contrived and disingenuous.

Here are some tips for how to deliver those first words to the object of your attention that will signal interest and attraction without sounding fake, bizarre or causing the guy to break out in laughter.

1. Comment on elements within the environment.

This icebreaker won’t raise any “weirdness alarms” because you and the guy you’re approaching are both within the same context and that makes for a natural segue into a conversation.

For example, if you’re waiting in a long line at a restaurant, you might ask, “Hi there. I’ve never been to this restaurant before. What do you suggest?”

Or if you’re at a concert, you could lead with, “What’s your favorite song by this band?”

2. Use open-ended questions.

You’ll notice in the last examples these questions posed broaden the possibility for a conversation because they aren’t designed for yes/no responses that can stop an interaction dead in its tracks.

Ask questions of the guy you’re interested in that will prompt him to share more than a few words so you can have more fodder to dialogue with.

“If your opening line falls flat, many

men will find this very endearing.”

3. Try the assertive, blunt approach.

No beating around the bush with this approach.

You could go straight for the bull’s-eye by approaching Mr. Hottie and saying something like, “What are you drinking? I’d like to buy you another.”

Or perhaps try, “Hi there. You’re one of the most handsome men in this room and I just had to come over and say hello.”

As you can see, these are pretty ballsy and not for the faint of heart. No pussyfooting here. This requires confidence and a lack of concern for possible rejection.

What do you have to lose?

4. Be creative.

In my own dating days, one of the most clever lines delivered to me was when I was at a bar with some friends right after the holiday season had commenced.

As I was walking by, a man gently grabbed my wrist and pulled me onto his lap and said, “Hi there. I’m Santa, and I’m going to give you what you didn’t get for Christmas.”

Granted, this was a cruising opening line filled with sexual innuendo, but it’s a come-on that has always stuck in my mind as being creative and amusing and makes me chuckle when I think about it.

The message here is to craft an opening line that’s creative and leaves a lasting impression.

5. Validate him and make him smile.

Remember one of the keys to forming a good impression is to validate the person and say something that will make him feel good about himself.

Whether you give him a genuine compliment or some other type of flattery, it’s always a nice ego boost when someone says something nice about us and this oftentimes can lead to earning brownie points from the guy of your interest.

6. Be natural.

Nothing smells worse than a premeditated, concocted opening line that is incongruent to the person or place because it lacks genuineness.

The important thing here is to be yourself and avoid being too much like a salesman marketing yourself.

And if you flub up, no worries! Try to have fun with this and avoid putting too much pressure on yourself.

If you make a mistake or your opening line falls flat, many men will find this very endearing and may be flattered by the fact you even put forth the effort in the first place.

7. Simplicity is king.

If all else fails, you can never go wrong with this simple trusty stand-by: “Hi, my name is ______.”

Just don’t forget to say your name clearly and look her in the eye as you introduce yourself. A confident delivery is half the battle won.

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