Does He Treat You Like A Queen

Gay Dating

Does He Treat You Like a “Queen”?

Brian Rzepczynski

Written by: Brian Rzepczynski

Brian Rzepczynski

Dr. Brian Rzepczynski, DHS, MSW, is “The Gay Love Coach." To sign up for the FREE Gay Love Coach Newsletter filled with dating and relationship tips and skills for gay singles and couples, as well as to check out current coaching groups, programs and teleclasses, please visit

See full bio »

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

Discuss This! Discuss This!
Advertiser Disclosure

Growing up gay, we didn’t receive any socialization on certain rites of passage when it comes to love and relationships.

The only dating template we had to go on was the male-female variety.

While dating and romance can take on similar qualities as our straight counterparts’, there are also some very real differences.

With two men, who holds the door open? Who pays for the first date? Who does what? There are no clear, designated roles to follow like straight relationships have.

While we are fortunate to not be bound to certain “rules” when it comes to dating, at the same time, it can be confusing on how to navigate through various interpersonal situations.

It also becomes challenging in trying to determine if the guy you’re seeing is a “keeper” or not based on the blurred roles.

What follows are five qualities of gay men that could be considered “a good catch” in helping you to assess whether he’s got the goods!

1. Chivalry should not be dead, even in gay relationships!

One of the classiest things another man can do for us is to be considerate and thoughtful.

In male-male dating situations, why don’t both men open the car door for each other, allow the other to walk through a door first or alternate paying the tab?

There is nothing feminine about being courted in this fashion, as I’ve heard some say before.

If nothing else, it shows this man is courteous and thinks your special to be doting on you. Lap it up!

2. He treats people with dignity and respect.

As you go out and about on your various dates, observe his body language with other people.

Is he personable and conversational with others? How does he treat the waiter at the restaurant? How does he treat retail staff who make a mistake on his purchase?

His behavior in these random scenarios can give you a host of information about his character, not to mention how he might treat you later on down the road.

“If this guy knows he has a lot to offer

another man and a relationship, snag him!”

3. He keeps family & friends close.

As you’re getting to know him better, listen carefully to his stories about his relationships with family and friends.

Are they close or disengaged? If they’re close, is it a healthy close or too enmeshed? Does he have friends?

These could be potential indicators of his ability to manage relationships successfully.

4. He’s grown from past loves lost.

When you begin to learn about his dating history, listen for the reasons behind the relationships ending to see if there are any patterns.

Remember, whether he’s the one who was left or if he was the dumper, it takes two to tango and we all play a role in the direction of our relationships.

What has he done to remedy his part in this trend?

5. He knows he’s a good catch!

If this guy you’re seeing seems to display good self-esteem, a solid value system, and knows he has a lot to offer and contribute to another man and a relationship, snag him!

This is oftentimes detected in the way he carries himself in that he’s assertive, confident and unapologetic for being who he is. This, taken to an extreme, is considered narcissism, so beware of these personality types.

But if he knows he has a good head on his shoulders, is truly ready for a relationship and just wants someone to experience life with, he’s a keeper.

These are only five qualities out of a plethora of them. And remember, these are qualities to strive for in yourself, too!

What are some other qualities and ingredients you look for in a guy that you would classify as “good catch” material? Do share!   

Advertiser Disclosure is a free online resource that offers valuable content and comparison services to users. To keep this resource 100% free, we receive compensation from many of the offers listed on the site. Along with key review factors, this compensation may impact how and where products appear across the site (including, for example, the order in which they appear). does not include the entire universe of available offers. Editorial opinions expressed on the site are strictly our own and are not provided, endorsed, or approved by advertisers.

Our Editorial Review Policy

Our site is committed to publishing independent, accurate content guided by strict editorial guidelines. Before articles and reviews are published on our site, they undergo a thorough review process performed by a team of independent editors and subject-matter experts to ensure the content’s accuracy, timeliness, and impartiality. Our editorial team is separate and independent of our site’s advertisers, and the opinions they express on our site are their own. To read more about our team members and their editorial backgrounds, please visit our site’s About page.