How To Strut Your Sexiest Body Part

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How to Strut Your Sexiest Body Part

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Written by: Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Known as America's Relationship Expert, Dr. Wendy Walsh is an award-winning television journalist, radio host & podcaster, and the author of three books on relationships and thousands of print and digital articles. More than 1.5 million people follow her sage advice on social media. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and teaches in the Psychology Department at California State University Channel Islands and has been the host of "The Dr. Wendy Walsh Show" on iHeart Radio's KFI AM 640 since 2015. Walsh is also a former Emmy-nominated co-host of "The Doctors," as well as former host of the nationally syndicated show "EXTRA." She was named a Time Magazine Person of the Year in 2017 after speaking out about harassment at a major news network.

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Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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I know what the mainstream media tells us — sexual attractiveness is the most important dating quality. I will agree with that only in part.

Sexiness is the most important thing if you are looking for sex, but not necessarily if you are looking for a long-term relationship.

Studies from around the world show people of both genders rate kindness and intelligence over beauty when choosing a life partner.

Both men and women know the sizzle of sexual attractiveness eventually declines and smarts and kindness will win the game for long-term partnership success.

But how do you showcase your sexiest body part — your brain — on dates?


There are many, many types of intellect and they aren’t all related to IQ scores or education level.

There is artistic intelligence, athletic intelligence, street smarts, mechanical ability, writing talents, culinary talents and the list goes on. Humor, for instance, is a great sign of intelligence.

The most important thing is to know your strength and play to it. Design your first few dates around this talent.

I once dated an architect who took me to a design showcase and drew my dream house on the paper napkin over lunch. I went hiking with an outdoorsy man who took me to trails I could never have navigated alone.

One guy with mechanical ability stopped in after dinner not for coffee, but to rewire my sound system.

Everyone is smart in some way. Find dating activities which showcase that.

“Everyone is smart in some way.

Find activities which showcase that.”


While it’s important to have boundaries in the early stages of dating, and not be a total doormat, it’s also wise to show you are caring person.

Maybe set up a date around some volunteer assignment, or if you do the traditional dinner date in the city, show special respect for the wait staff, cab drivers and homeless people.

Remember, your date is taking mental notes. They want to know you will be there for them if they are ever vulnerable and in need of care.

Relationships are an exchange of care. Long-term love is a kind of interdependence where people take turns leaning on each other’s shoulders.

When men and women search for serious relationships, they unconsciously think about who is best suited for their long-term survival. Those survival areas may be social, financial or health related.

Want to show you are a long-term mate, not a sexy flash in the pan? Then strut your most attractive body part: your brain.

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