Our First Kiss Wasn’t Good

To create and maintain a healthy and satisfying romantic relationship with your ideal man, it is key to connect on an emotional and physical level.

As you date and get to know your new guy, the hope is you will like him for who he is and how you feel around him. The hope is you will have a spark and feel physically attracted to him.

Despite what we see in the movies, first kisses in real life may feel forced, awkward or uncomfortable. Unfortunately and realistically speaking, not every first kiss is great.

Do you let him go and move on, or do you give him the benefit of the doubt if you like him?

It is understandable you might feel disappointed if you expected to be swept off your feet. It is only natural you might feel let down after a less than ideal kiss if the chemistry was great prior to the kiss and you were connecting on an emotional level.

You might even feel confused if everything was going well so far, but if you enjoy your time with him and he possesses the qualities you look for in a man, I urge you to give him another chance.

Here are four reasons your first kiss might not have been good:

And pressure can be high if there is mutual interest and attraction. Due to his interest in you, it is possible his nerves got in the way.

If you like him, focus on giving him credit for initiating it after a great time with you.

Most of the time, this is workable if you are willing to give him another chance to create a better kiss and show him what you like.

Maybe you like him as a person, view him as more of a friend or kissed him back because you felt bad or felt you should.

Word of caution here: Be an empowered woman and in fairness to both of you, if you are really not feeling it after spending time with him, do not kiss him out of pity or guilt.

“If you aren’t feeling attracted to

him, be OK with walking away.”

Here are three tips if you like him enough to continue dating him and giving him another chance feels right to you:

Don’t be afraid to take the lead and show him what you like. Ease potential nerves by ensuring you are in an ideal place to kiss and do not force it.

Instead, try to make it fun, let it progress naturally and direct him a bit more in the moment.

Bonus: Setting up healthy communication early in dating sets the tone for closeness and connection in your growing relationship.

It also is a great opportunity to work on being honest in a direct, genuine and kind way and assess his communication skills as well.

But only if you are emotionally clicking and you appreciate his positive qualities.

If kissing him gets better with practice and greater connection, it is important to let him know you are enjoying it. Men love to know they are satisfying you and bringing gratitude into your relationship breeds more positivity.

As always, trust your instincts and listen to your inner voice.

If you are really not feeling attracted to him and you think there are psychological reasons why you are not connecting physically (or major red flags), own how you feel and be OK with walking away.

Although it can be uncomfortable to say goodbye, only you will be able to determine how much you want to invest in your new guy. Be confident in what you feel compelled to do.