Lube Shopping 4 Things Every Senior Woman Must Know

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Lube Shopping: 4 Things Every Senior Woman Must Know

April Braswell

Written by: April Braswell

April Braswell

April Braswell is a senior dating expert, dating coach and professional dating profile writer. She leads dating, relationship and communication skills workshops throughout California.

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Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Most women over 50, whether or not they are post-menopausal, find they need a personal lubricant for sharing senior intimacy.

Even if your body produced enough lubrication for your bedroom antics in your 40s, your female body changes in your 50s.

What do you want to consider when selecting a lubricant for your bedroom?

1. Only buy from trusted sources 

It’s best to buy your lubricant at a retail store or through a trusted U.S.-based company. Look for female-friendly stores that have a knowledgeable staff with whom you can ask questions.

To start with, you want to purchase the smallest size, preferably a travel size version, in order to vet it with your own body’s personal PH.

If your body has any sensitivity to certain chemicals, the delicacy of the vagina is likely to respond. You wouldn’t want to be stuck with the jumbo value pack that your body can’t stand.

Once you have found the best one for you, stock up.

“Forget the old myth that says

your sex life has to dwindle.”

2. Go for high viscosity

This is often what changes over time for a mature women in her 50s, 60s and older. Your female body might be producing the same amount of lubrication, but the consistency might have changed.

You want to check for lubricants with high-quality viscous properties for things to be comfortable, as well as passionate, for you two.

You can find personal lubes with good viscosity at your local drug store, but you can get the best information at a female-friendly romance store.

The quality of viscosity makes it more comfortable for your boomer man without inadvertently causing light abrasions.

Jackie Strano, executive vice president of Good Vibrations, a San Francisco Bay Area and New England vanguard in the adult pleasure industry, said to look for, “… pillowy as far as viscosity goes. [That] adds a slight barrier given its thickness while still being silky and long lasting. Our new silicone lube is very slick, but remember they need to be careful when using with latex. The gel is thicker in viscosity.”

3. Choose water based whenever possible

Petroleum or other kinds of oil-based lubricants are a mistake for women. Parabens are another ingredient to avoid. These can exacerbate rosacea, which many women start to experience in their 40s and 50s.

These potential toxins also have been linked to such health hazards as skin or breast cancer.

4. Consider protection that comes pre-lubed

If the two of you are married, then you might not need to use condoms to protect yourselves from STDs.  However, remember just because your romantic partner is a baby boomer does not mean they don’t have any STDs.

Use protection until you are sure of your full health reports.

As you age, forget the old myth that says your sex life has to dwindle. With the right lubricant and playfulness, you can continue to be the generation we all thank for leading the modern sexual revolution.

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