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How to Meet Gay Seniors (Feb. 2024)

Brian Rzepczynski

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Brian Rzepczynski

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Our dating experts have noticed that older adults in the LGBTQ community can have a particularly difficult time trying to meet gay seniors. Hopefully, reading this article will help clear things up a little.

Meeting gay seniors can be easy if you know how and where to look for them, and we’re here to recommend the top dating services, resources, and venues to make something happen. You can cut out the guesswork and nervousness of dating by joining online networks or offline communities where mature singles pair off all the time.

1. Sign Up for an Online Dating Site

The Pew Research Center says 28% of people 45-65+ have used an online dating site or app, and that number is only going to grow with time. This is why online dating is our #1 recommendation — the numbers are on your side.

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OneNightFriend can help a single gay guy expand his social network and meet sex-driven individuals like himself. The online dating service acts like a gay bar or club, except that everything happens online so gay men can safely meet, chat, and arrange a late-night rendezvous if the mood is right.

2. Volunteer for LGBTQ+ Organizations

The important thing to remember about volunteering is you need to match your values, preferences, and life purpose to a place that stands for the same things as you. This way, you’ll surround yourself with men who share at least some semblance of your vision; that takes you one step closer to possibly finding someone who’d be a good fit.

You could offer your time to a gay youth center and become a mentor to teens coming to terms with their sexual identity. If you’re passionate about politics, volunteer for a gay politician whose views you share. Organizations and advocacy groups like The Human Rights Campaign, amfAR, and SAGE are also always looking for people to help them out.

The choices are endless — it all boils down to knowing yourself and expressing your values and passions through that venue where like-minded individuals congregate.

3. Go on a Gay Cruise

If you want to meet the guy of your dreams while in a tropical location (and who wouldn’t?), then give a gay cruise a try. Planning a trip like this does take some research and scheduling, but there are a variety of travel agencies and cruise ships that cater to the gay community and can help you out.

If you’re gay, singles, and ready to mingle, check out Atlantis Events or travel to a popular gay destination like Key West and join in on their Gay Pride festivities.

4. Join a Gay Health Center

Most metropolitan areas have an LGBT health center or clinic that offers a variety of support groups or recreational activities. Take a look at The Center on Halsted in Chicago to get an idea of what an LGBT health center can provide older gay men.

To find a center near you, just type into Google “gay health center” and your city (e.g., “gay health center New York City”), and you should see numerous results. Once you see one you like, you should contact them to learn more about their offerings. Most of these places will even have support groups for individuals based on age to allow for more generational commonality.

5. Move to a Gay Retirement Community

With the increased acceptance of diversity that’s occurred in our society, more and more gay retirement communities are starting to spring up around the country. These can be great places to meet other gay people in your age group for new friendships and romances.

Places like Rainbow Vista near Portland, Oregon or Seashore Point in Provincetown, Massachusetts are just two examples of gay retirement villages out there.

Again, if you want to find one near you, all you have to do is search Google for “gay retirement communities your area.”

6. Search for Gay Groups on is a popular and helpful social and recreational site for meeting gay singles your age and who like to take part in similar activities. Type in your zip code, any hobby or interest you may have, and the word “gay,” and you’ll see all the social groups available within your location.

If there happens to be nothing available, you can be a pioneer and create your own group — maybe a fun LGBTQ+ bookclub or drag brunch gang.

7. Hire a Gay Matchmaker

Another option would be to hire a professional gay matchmaker who can set you up with gay single seniors. Most of them have a large database of clients they can search through until they find someone who might be compatible with your particular dating wants and needs.

Take a look at the matchmaker’s testimonials and reviews to make sure it’s the right fit for you, and look for matchmakers who guarantee a certain number of matches per month or year and offer hands-on dating assistance and advice.

Get Out There and Meet Gay Seniors

Getting older doesn’t mean you can’t still do the things you love and find someone to share those moments with — and it’s time for mature adults to come out of their shells.

Our list of ways to meet gay seniors can help LGBT people of a certain age overcome social obstacles and stigma. All you have to do is choose the dating site, volunteer organization, or gay matchmaker that best meets your lifestyle, and then get out there. Good luck!

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