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Are You Ready for the Right Guy?

Michelle Johnson

Written by: Michelle Johnson

Michelle Johnson

Michelle Marchant Johnson is a writer, speaker and relationship coach who partners with single women who want to find love and romance. Go to to receive your complimentary "7 Attraction Principles" e-course, "Love Notes" newsletter and request a complimentary "Find Your Love" coaching session. Michelle found love at age 43 and is a breast cancer survivor who believes life is meant to be filled with love and passion.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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“Eventually I saw that the path of the heart requires a full gesture, a degree of abandon that can be terrifying. Only then is it possible to achieve a sparkling metamorphosis.”
-Carlos Castaneda

When I turned 40, I was single with a relationship history filled with a long string of heartbreaks and disappointments.

Other aspects of my life seemed to be going smoothly, so I didn’t understand why real love seemed so elusive. I felt very disheartened about ever finding a great guy to share my life with.

However, instead of giving up, I made a resolve to learn everything I could about myself, men and relationships. I began an intense personal journey of self-discovery, determined to find out what was holding me back, standing in the way or stopping me from finding the right guy.

What I came to understand was there were several self-sabotaging behaviors and thought patterns minimizing my chances for love.

I was subconsciously standing in my own way.

While I believed I was ready and open to the idea of meeting and attracting the love of my life, in reality there was fear, ambivalence and perhaps even a bit of cynicism causing static in the background.

I now understand many of the challenges I faced are common obstacles you too may have encountered on your own personal journey to love. Here are just a few:

1. Not believing there is someone out there for you

Remember your mind is very powerful. If you are focused on the shortage of good men or on what lousy jerks they all seem to be, your mind will find convincing evidence to back up your beliefs.

One of the most potent things you can do is to believe high-quality, relationship-ready men do exist. Accept that there is someone out there who would love to share his life with you.

2. Settling for a substandard relationship

It can be very easy when you can’t see anything on the horizon and have no idea where or how you will meet someone amazing to just settle for whoever comes along.

While it can be scary to be alone, the problem with settling is you are unlikely to ever be really happy and you can miss other opportunities to meet someone who is better suited for you.

“When you live authentically,

a great man will join you!”

3. Holding on to past hurt, pain or resentment

One of the most significant things you can do to be ready for love is to heal your heart and clear your mind from the pain and disappointment of your past. Forgiveness of yourself and others is vital.

This will allow you to have your heart open and to be receptive to giving and receiving love. This healing often requires some support or assistance from a therapist, coach or healer.

4. Discounting your own value.  

Even the most beautiful, accomplished, smart and successful women struggle with feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt.

Until you truly accept that you are unequivocally worthy to be loved and cherished by someone you trust, admire and respect, you are unlikely to attract the relationship of your dreams.

Set the tone for how you want to be treated by showing yourself some kindness, compassion and love.

5. Failure to intentionally create your dream life

Sometimes it can feel like your real life will begin when you have the right person to share it with. The truth is you are more likely to attract someone wonderful if you create an irresistible life for yourself.

When you are living your life authentically and passionately, a great man will be clamoring to join you! Remember you, your love and your life are precious.

Don’t waste a moment because this is the real thing. Find joy in the moment and express appreciation for the gifts and blessings present in your life.

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