Should You Post Selfies On Your Online Dating Profile

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Should You Post Selfies on Your Online Dating Profile?

Julie Spira

Written by: Julie Spira

Julie Spira

Julie Spira is a leading online dating expert and founder of She’s the bestselling author of "The Perils of Cyber-Dating" and creates irresistible profiles for singles. Follow @JulieSpira or connect on Instagram.

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Edited by: Lillian Castro

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I love technology. There is no doubt the iPhone has made dating a whole lot easier and so much more fun.

Cameras continue to improve on the Samsung Galaxy, iPhones and other mobile devices.

While Instagram remains the favorite social networking photo site du jour, the prevalence of selfies is increasing on dating profiles.

Who is posting selfies?

And are they narcissistic, funny, expected or a turn-off? Just because celebrities are jumping on the selfie bandwagon, should you?

What is a selfie? It is one of the most popular hashtags on Twitter when someone snaps their own photo with their mobile phone.

Usually selfies are goofy. They are often a bathroom shot in the mirror, or in the case of Rhianna, a bikini shot or two.

In a recent Glamour magazine article, a list of 11 turn-offs to men who viewed women’s online dating profiles listed selfies twice.

Men felt posting more than 75 percent of your photos as selfies was a turn-off.

“Just makes me wonder how long you spent in your room taking shots that did not make the cut,” one guy said.

The bathroom selfie is an online dating no-no.

“Unless it is done ironically, in which case, are you free on Thursday?” was another response.

Taking it a step further, research from the University of Birmingham in the U.K. found too many selfies posted on Facebook could actually damage your relationship.

David Houghton, the lead researcher, said, “Selfies, or self-portraits, seem to be some of the most irksome images.”

“Put your best digital foot

forward and post the best photos.”

In a recent interview with the New York Daily News, I provided several tips for those who have no self-control when posting selfies.

Those tips included:

Ladies, no bikini photos.

Just because Rhianna posts them, it does not mean your potential online date will appreciate yours.

A bikini shot is just lingerie with different material. A man will undress you with his eyes.

There is no need to say “take me to the bedroom” with your bikini selfie.

Guys, ditch the mirror photos.

Posting a photo of you without a shirt in the bathroom mirror has become as cliche as the woman who says she enjoys walks on the beach on her online dating profile.

While authenticity is appreciated in posting recent photos, we know selfie shots usually do not look the best. I say save them for Twitter, Facebook and Instagram.

Put your best digital foot forward and post the best photos you can of yourself. Add the dates they were taken so your online date will know how recent they are.

Are you posting selfies on your dating profile? What has the response been?

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