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The Short Version: Many singles think they can find relationship success using dating apps or meeting people through friends. But Matchmaker Julia Bekker — also known as the Hunting Maven — recognizes that busy singles often struggle to build connections through those channels. Some people may not find truly compatible partners, while others may have difficulty meeting anyone in the first place. Julia strives to solve those problems through her New York City matchmaking practice, and, if her clients are struggling to present their best selves, she also offers coaching services to give them confidence and overcome the obstacles that keep them from relationship success.
Many singles are surprised how hard it can be to find the right person. Some think they’ll meet that special person the old-fashioned way — through friends, at school, or sitting at the bar. Others believe dating apps will solve all of their woes.
But if they’re still struggling to find a relationship after using various dating methods, meeting with a matchmaker can turn their dating lives around. Julia Bekker, also known as the Hunting Maven, caters to clients who never thought they’d use a matchmaker.
“My clients typically have no problem dating on their own, but meeting the right person in a city like New York, and sustaining a relationship isn’t as easy as it seems,” Julia said.
She shared the story of one client who turned to her after a stressful divorce. He was jaded about dating — and women in general.
“I found him his soulmate (and I use that word with intent) on the first try. He said he never met anyone more perfect for him, and she said the same,” Julia told us.
One of Julia’s strengths is staying neutral in dating situations, where daters may be swayed by their past experiences or current expectations. Instead, Julia objectively responds to what clients seek and pairs them with other singles who fit that mold.
Julia also relies on her intuition to match singles. In the case of her divorced client, Julia envisioned someone she thought would be perfect for him, without even combing through her database.
“I hadn’t talked to the woman I set him up with in two years, but she popped into my head. I called her out of the blue. I used my strong intuition, and it definitely helped in that case,” Julia said.
Now, the couple that clicked immediately is not only still together, but also on their way to getting married. Julia aims to help every client have the same type of success.
Before opening her matchmaking practice, Julia trained with renowned matchmaker Janis Spindel, who makes matches for New York’s elite singles.
“I grew to love matchmaking so much that I decided to start my own company,” Julia said.
Now she has training as a relationship and dating coach, and over 15 years of matchmaking experience under her belt. Her love advice has also landed her high-profile writing opportunities and expert features with newspapers under Hearst Publications, The New York Post, and Elite Daily.
Julia’s matchmaking strategy is straightforward. Her clients are typically successful men who are too busy to shotgun date but want to build long-term relationships, and are ready to make the right person a priority.
Women who could be potential suitors for these men are candidates, and those interested in meeting men can register on Julia’s website. Julia has recently opened her doors to taking on women as clients as well and is very selective when choosing her clients.
“My clients and candidates are successful, high quality, career-driven yet well-balanced people who are also relationship-minded and ready to make love and partnership a priority. They have their lives together and are generally happy, it’s just that one piece of the life puzzle they want help with,” she said.
After a potential client contacts Julia, she meets with them to discuss what they’re looking for in a partner and a relationship. Once she has an idea of what they’re looking for, she combs her database for suitable candidates and then the interview/vetting process begins.
That search is both an art and a science. Julia considers what men and women are seeking in a partner, as well as what didn’t work for them in past relationships, and she also uses her sense of partnerships that might work out to guide her.
“I have always been a natural connector and a people person. My ability to understand people and what they need is an innate skill. I turned my personality into my profession,” she said.
In addition to matchmaking, Julia offers coaching packages to singles looking for love. This work doesn’t focus on changing people but rather on helping them highlight their best qualities and letting go of any fears or limitations which might be blocking them.
For instance, Julia sees some clients who perpetuate the same negative dating patterns again and again. Even if those habits made their previous relationships fail, they don’t know how to behave differently.
She also finds that some clients keep choosing partners who aren’t right for them.
“I help my clients break the patterns which stand in the way of successful relationships. I also encourage them to become clear on what’s most important in a partner, which makes a huge difference when it comes to finding the right person,” Julia said.
She shared the story of a coaching client who was worrying about finding a long-term relationship. The client was almost 40 and worried that she would never find love or have a family. Julia encouraged her to transform — both inside and out. Using that guidance, the client found a partner and ended up getting married within a year.
Those who can’t connect with Julia in person can get dating advice on her blog. Articles help singles outside of Julia’s dating radius tap into her expertise on how to find compatible partners. The topics include “7 Truths About What Men Want In A Woman Today” and “9 Important Dating Tips For Men Starting A New Relationship.”
Through the blog, she reminds women that men like open communication and to feel needed, and she advises men who want to build long-term relationships to ask women questions, not just talk about themselves.
“I love to help and empower people and see them happy and achieving their goals. Seeing their transformation brings me so much joy,” Julia said.
Julia is also known as the Hunting Maven, and her logo includes the silhouette of a woman in heels shooting with a Cupid’s bow. Julia chose the name because of her commitment to finding matches, and she’ll search for them anywhere.
For instance, she attends many local events to mingle with singles who can expand her dating network. She also mentions that she’ll talk to anyone, anywhere, if she thinks they’ll be a good fit as a client or candidate.
“I possess a network of high-quality singles and also scout outside my network. It’s like having a personal love hunter,” Julia said.
Even though she’s open-minded in searching for singles to add to her network, she’s also tough in vetting candidates to ensure they’re the right fit.
“I meet everyone face to face and get to know them to decide whether it’s a match,” Julia said.
That way, her busy daters aren’t going on dozens of dates with incompatible singles. Instead, Julia focuses on quality over quantity, and pairs singles who she sees having long-term futures together.
Julia’s process of finding and matching clients has worked out for many singles looking for love.
“It’s not just my profession; I consider it my calling. I find it very rewarding to help people attain something so special and rare,” she said.
So, with all of the success she’s had so far, what’s next for the Hunting Maven?
“I have an idea for a dating app that will fix all the things wrong with dating apps today. I plan to offer an alternative to matchmaking for those who don’t want to pay a high fee for one on one service,” she said.