Women Who Rape

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Women Who Rape

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Written by: Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Known as America's Relationship Expert, Dr. Wendy Walsh is an award-winning television journalist, radio host & podcaster, and the author of three books on relationships and thousands of print and digital articles. More than 1.5 million people follow her sage advice on social media. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and teaches in the Psychology Department at California State University Channel Islands and has been the host of "The Dr. Wendy Walsh Show" on iHeart Radio's KFI AM 640 since 2015. Walsh is also a former Emmy-nominated co-host of "The Doctors," as well as former host of the nationally syndicated show "EXTRA." She was named a Time Magazine Person of the Year in 2017 after speaking out about harassment at a major news network.

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Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Recently I was a guest of HuffPostLive, an Internet talk show that tackles the most tender topics with grace and an intellectual eye. The topic was entitled “When Predators Are Women” and my fellow guests were all survivors of female rape.

These men were a brave bunch of dudes.

They were brave because they spoke out against a cultural myth that all boys, teens and men like sex — any kind of sex under any kind of circumstance.

And they expressed the confusion they felt because they’d been taught this myth and then were later psychologically coerced or aggressively violated by a woman.

Often the woman was much older and the boy a mere teen who was under her care or under some sort of power dynamic that made it impossible for him to say no.

Other times it was an aggressive woman who used date rape drugs and Viagra as her weapons of rape.

In most cases, the men felt traumatized and, because of the cultural myth, felt helpless to talk about it or reach out for help.

Female sexual predators are rare, but the numbers are unclear because so few men and boys report their crimes.

Women who use social power or chemical weapons to obtain sex with a man (or woman) are as much violent criminals as a male rapist.


“The idea of male rape is

not fodder for snickers.”

So let me make this clear.

The word “no” should be respected no matter the gender of the person. Before any two people enter a sexual encounter, they must be peers who can each give verbal consent.

The idea of male rape is not fodder for snickers. It is a serious crime.

And the wounds of physical and emotional trauma are just as visceral in a male victim of rape as a female victim.

In some ways, it is worse because there are few people they can talk to and few men get the sympathy and therapy they deserve.

My hat goes off to the amazing, evolved men who are beginning to express themselves on this very tender topic.

Here’s the link to the HuffPostLive Show: http://on.aol.com/partner/hp-live-segments-517394847/videoId=517555474

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