Dating Coach Mat Boggs Inspires Women To Have The Love Life They Want

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Cracking the Man Code: Dating Coach Mat Boggs Inspires Women to Improve Themselves & Have the Love Life They Want

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The Short Version: Dating coach Mat Boggs has traveled all over the country to unlock the secrets of love, and what he’s learned along the way has been transformative. Over the last 11 years, he has developed a straightforward Cracking the Man Code program as well as other online resources to help single women improve their dating experiences and regain confidence in themselves. Mat draws upon years of dating experiences and self-development training to provide simple takeaways for women in the dating scene. He also brings his expertise as a former high school biology teacher when explaining the biological differences between the brains of men and women and how that relates to relationship building. If you want to get in a long-term relationship, but don’t know exactly how to do it, you can turn to Mat for practical and inspirational guidance on the ways of love.

Mat Boggs struggled in the dating world for many years until he sought help. He went to a personal development event feeling determined to figure out what he was doing wrong and how he could change his negative dating patterns.

At the event, 50 men and 50 women mingled with one another while engaging in eye-opening activities full of teachable moments. Mat said one particular exercise gave him an unpleasant but ultimately useful wake-up call. The women at the event were asked to vote on the men, marking yes or no if they’d want to be on a deserted island with this person. The event organizers then lined the men up from highest to lowest number of yes votes.

Photo of Mat Boggs, Founder of Cracking the Man Code

Dating and life coach Mat Boggs started his journey of self-improvement over 11 years ago.

Mat was shocked and saddened to discover he had received the second lowest number of yes votes. Although he felt humiliated, he wanted to know why and so he asked the women for more specific feedback.

“What they said was they felt like they couldn’t connect with me. They felt judged by me,” Mat recalled. “I didn’t find myself to be a judgmental person, but, for some reason, that was their experience of me. It was gut-wrenching, but it was also clarifying for me.”

That night, Mat did some soul searching and realized that he was sending out judgmental vibes because he was so critical of himself and holding that weight of negativity inside his heart.

“I made a commitment to myself that night,” he said, “that, no matter what it would take I was going to find out how to heal this relationship with myself and how to be the best partner I could be.”

That year, he and his best friend Jason packed up their bags and traveled across the country in an RV in a search for America’s happiest couples. Their mission was to interview married couples who had been together 40+ years and to ask them what their secret is. Mat said they were just a pair of “clueless bachelors” looking for answers, but what they found changed their lives. After traveling 12,000 miles and talking to over 300 couples, Mat and Jason felt they had enough information and insight to write a book called “Project Everlasting” detailing their discoveries.

“What I learned from those couples absolutely transformed my life. I realized my approach was totally wrong. My mindset was wrong,” Mat said. “I began to apply their principles to my life, and everything shifted. On the last stop of our book tour, I ended up meeting the woman who would become my wife.”

That was 11 years ago. Mat is now happily married with two children and third on the way. He said he’s able to live his dream because of the lessons he learned from married couples — lessons he now seeks to share as a professional dating and relationship coach.

MANifest Your Man: Online Programs Empower Singles

After Mat met the woman of his dreams, he realized he could help singles everywhere have the same success by sharing the essential principles that had changed his life. He wanted to share the knowledge and insights that had worked for him because he knew it could work for singles around the globe.

He became a certified life coach over 11 years ago and has been speaking, teaching, and coaching ever since. He had traveled the world giving Cracking the Man Code live seminars, and his online presence has grown dramatically in a short period of time. Singles from all walks of life can use Mat as a resource to help them identify misconceptions in the dating world, including the differences between how men and women experience attraction, and set themselves on a path toward true, lasting love.

Mat told us his most popular online course is Cracking the Man Code, which teaches women to understand the inner motivations of the single men in their lives. The program pulls back the curtains and clarifies what men are thinking and feeling as they fall in love. “The course provides actual skill sets for how to relate to a man in terms of communication, connection, and attraction,” Mat explained, “so you can ignite the responses you want from him and create the strongest bonds possible.”

MANifest Your Man offers a masterful in-depth exploration of dating skills, self-esteem, and other emotional concepts. This live coaching program pairs 16 weekly video modules with live coaching sessions. Women work closely with Mat to learn his philosophy and follow his proven methods for getting the relationship you want and deserve. This life-changing course focuses on how to stay open to romantic possibilities without feeling discouraged or defeated if things don’t work out.

From sending a message online to making a great impression offline, MANifest Your Man is a comprehensive love course for single women who want to get fast results and dive deeper into what’s going on in their love lives.

“A lot of what it is is just personal development,” Mat said. “We become the best versions of ourselves when we open up the best opportunities for ourselves. So that’s a big part of my coaching.”

The 3 Skills Behind Building an Amazing Relationship

Mat’s coaching style speaks to the spiritual side of relationship success. He brings a soulful approach to finding and creating love, so that people come away with a full understanding of the practical and emotional aspects that go into a lifelong relationship.

Over the years, Mat has identified three main components to successful daters, and he shares them with his clients to help them master love. The first key ingredient is your mindset — you have to go into a date with the right attitude and the right belief systems in place. Mat emphasized the importance of having a positive view of yourself and the world because that’s going to be more attractive than being down on yourself or dating.

Secondly, Mat teaches his clients to develop the proper Heartset, as he calls it, so that they are open to love. By feeling receptive to what’s out there, singles can invite new possibilities into their lives.

Last of all, the MANifest Your Man program tackles Skillset, the practical tools and tactics needed to attract a partner. This last crucial key can make or break a relationship. “You can have the right mind and heart, but you have to have the right skill set to stop yourself from sabotaging or undermining the relationship,” Mat said. “Skillset involves knowing how to create a bridge versus a wall.”

From how to meet people to how to carry out a fantastic conversation, Mat walks his clients through building and maintaining a romantic connection with someone special. “These aren’t things we are born into this world knowing,” he pointed out. “We pick them up from our parents, our friends, our siblings, and other sources. If we don’t have good models, we learn ineffective skills. As a result, most of us aren’t very good at flirting. Most people aren’t really good at writing on online profile.”

Mat wants to change all that by providing specific lessons on flirting, communication, and relationships. He offers practical guidance on his YouTube channel, which sees over 2 million views per month. He puts a lot of time and effort into making videos packed with useful information that can be applied immediately. His videos are a free resource for anyone who has relationship questions they need answered.

“Helping people grow is the most fulfilling thing for me next to playing with my kids and snuggling with my life,” Mat said. “It’s why I wake up in the morning. It’s what motivates me.”

Making a Positive Impact on the Dating Scene

The primary objective of Mat’s coaching programs and speaking engagements is to empower women to find the man of their dreams. He works with women in their 30s who want to meet someone and start a family as well as women in their 50s and 60s who want a second chance at love after divorce. His clients run the gamut, but many of them know what they want in terms of a relationship and are eager to learn how to develop more successful dating skills.

“These are smart women who understand the value of growth,” he said. “They want to do it right, and they want guidance and support as they take on new aspects of themselves.”

Mat’s courses have proven successful for many participants, and the dating coach said he receives positive feedback from former clients every day. “I’m pleased to say that I Cracked the Man Code,” said Kathy Schuler, who joined the program three years ago and found love shortly after. “This October, I will be celebrating my second wedding anniversary! Thank you!”

“Now I am open to being my best true self and falling in love again. Thanks Mat!” — Liz, a client from California

While Mat said he loves to hear that his program helped a woman meet her soul mate, he’s even more gratified by messages from women who say he changed their lives in deeper ways by boosting their self-esteem and reframing how they view life and love.

One woman named Linda took the Cracking the Man Code course and was hungry for more insights. She wanted to take the MANifest Your Man course, but she would have to use the money she had earmarked for a new car. She was driving around in a beat-up old car and felt she deserved an upgrade. However, Linda ultimately decided she’d rather spend her days driving with a husband in a beat-up car than driving by herself in a new car, so she invested in herself by taking Mat’s coaching program.

“You are my absolute favorite male dating coach! Always offering solid value.” — Tiye Harris, Founder of TotalLoveMakover

Two months later, Linda told Mat she had doubled her sales at work by using the confident communication skills he’d taught her, and she had met an incredible man named Jim. Today, she’s happily engaged, and, thanks to her newfound success at work, she has earned the money to buy herself a new car.

“The dating results are great, but it means way more to me to see Linda and who she’s become now that she has these skills for life,” Mat said. “Our work together not just impacts this relationship or this moment, but the rest of her life is changed because she’s now equipped with these same skills that I’ve learned and that have changed my life.”

Mat Taps into the Spiritual Side of Relationship Success

Mat Boggs met and married the woman of his dreams by examining his dating style, identifying key components to successful relationships, and learning to love himself. Now he seeks to help single women have similar transformational experiences.

His online courses, YouTube series, and speaking events offer inspirational guidance for singles wondering how they can better themselves and improve their love lives at the same time. In the coming months, Mat plans to release a new product that focuses on discovering and removing inner blocks to dating. This skilled and knowledgeable dating coach wants to ensure people have their minds and hearts in the right place so they are open to finding the right partner and building a fruitful relationship.

“This really is my mission in life,” he said. “I want to increase the love in the world one heart at a time. I believe we’re on this planet to learn how to give and receive love, but sometimes people stop themselves before they even start. Removing negative beliefs and empowering people to ignite a relationship is really exciting.”

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