Do Men Like Aggressive Women?

Nick Slade

Written by: Nick Slade

Nick Slade

Nick spent 20 years in the dating scene before marriage. He has always been the guy friends would come to for advice on relationships, and he developed a knack for giving helpful insights. After college, Nick was a disc jockey for a few years, when the love generation was still alive, so Nick has a lot of relevant experience to draw from when it comes to every aspect of dating, falling in love and screwing things up. He holds Bachelor's degree in humanities and a slew of master’s credits in journalism. Nick is a news junkie and tries to keep up on the latest non-fiction when he has time. He has published two books on how to win at dating and relationships.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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“Aggressive” often carries the connotation of hostility and belligerence, which men don’t like in women and women don’t like in men. However, men are very much attracted to confident women with a bold personality and lifestyle.

Nevertheless, what is good socially and in the workplace doesn’t usually work as well in intimate situations, unless you’re just in it for the sex.

A man might enjoy an anonymous beauty grabbing him by the necktie and pulling him into an airplane restroom for a memorable moment, but he is not likely to be so positively impacted if some little sweetheart grabs him by the belt buckle and forces the situation right after dinner on the first date.

Don’t get me wrong, he would most likely go along with it. He would probably put her down as a “sure thing” on his booty call list, but she probably wouldn’t make his list of long-term possibilities.

There are the kind of women men want to spend an hour with and the kind they might like to spend a lifetime with.

Too much aggression in the romance department detracts from his manhood and from her womanhood. In the area of romance, aggressive behavior generally does not play well, unless it is done with finesse.

A woman can get the same results by planting the idea in his head and letting him take the lead.

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