How to Get a Guy to Like You — (12 Ways Over Text, At Work, In College & Online)

It’s a common story: either you like him and he doesn’t like you, or he likes you and you don’t like him. This scenario usually plays out over and over again, until, finally, you find the right one. Since this can be a long and arduous process, I compiled a list to increase the chances of getting the guy you like to like you back.

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1. Only Text When He Texts You

If you text “Good morning” or “How’s your day going?” men who have busy jobs might find this annoying. If a girl or guy did this to the person they are in a committed relationship with, it would show that they care, and the other person would appreciate it. But on the flip side, if a woman does this to a man she isn’t dating, it could be disrupting him from accomplishing whatever goal he is focused on. Tip number two will delve into this a little more.

2. Use Texting for Logistics

Men prefer to text purely for logistics, while women will use it for communication. If you want him to like you, reserve the conversation via text for your girlfriends and use texting with him to firm up your date plans.

3. If You Text First, Send a Picture of You Having Fun

If you have the guy’s number and are having a night out with your girlfriends, send him a picture of you having a blast. He will enjoy seeing you so happy, and he may just want to become the man who can make it possible for you to have more amazing times.

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4. Ask For Advice

Men crave to feel needed. If you ask for advice and then, after receiving it, tell the guy “Wow, you’re a big help. Thank you!” he will certainly start to be more drawn to you.

5. Be Good At Your Job

In general, people are impressed by those who are good at things, whether it be sports, cooking, or, in this case, working. If you’re the best, or better than most, at something, it’s impressive and people will want to understand what’s so special about you.

6. Show Up to Happy Hours

I know when I was in corporate, after a long day the only thing I wanted to do was go home and watch TV. But, if you do what I did, your co-workers don’t bond with you, and the cute guy from accounting certainly won’t have a chance to get to know you and maybe even buy you a drink. Half the battle is showing up!

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7. Have Goals, Aspirations & Confidence

Most girls in college are getting drunk and having fun, and there’s nothing wrong with that. However, if you’re passionate about other things as well (your major, social issues, your job, etc.), you can stand out from other girls. This confidence and self-assuredness will draw him to you and make him want to get to know you better.

8. Play Co-Ed Intramural Sports

Even if you don’t like sports or are bad at the one you sign up for, ask a guy who might be better than you for some tips. Like I said, men love to feel needed and love to give advice. Once he helps you, thank him. This will build a great foundation to start to get to know each other deeper.

9. Don’t Have Sex Right Away

In college, the one-night stand is fairly common, but I’d suggest waiting to have sex to see if he’s actually interested in you and not just your body. If he keeps coming back to get to know you, then you have your answer.

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10. Send Him a Message Asking Him Out

Men do not like messaging back and forth. They want to get to a date ASAP. If you can help him with this, he will greatly appreciate it. Men will not be interested in you until they see you in person, are physically attracted to you, and then get hooked by your amazing personality. I do not care how much flirting you do via message or how many things you think you have common, you have nothing until you meet in person.

11. Have a Profile Picture Where You’re Not Too Close to the Camera

Based on millions of data points I was given from some of the major online dating sites, your face should make up 8% to 15% of the entire picture. That way, you’re more likely to get more messages than everyone else.

12. Make Your Profile Specific

If you say “I’m energetic,” that could mean you wake up at 7 a.m. every Saturday morning, running 10 miles in 67 minutes, or it could mean you’re always smiling and perk up about the idea of Sunday brunch. Avoid the adjectives and focus on telling specific stories. This will allow men to have an easy way to message you and have a clear picture of what life together would be like.

You can find a guy who likes you and who you like back. Remember, no matter how many wrong guys you meet, you only need to meet one right guy. Use these tips, increase the likelihood of each guy liking you, and hopefully sooner rather than later, you’ll like one of them back.