How Do I Learn to be Myself in Front of Guys?

Bethany Heinesh

Written by: Bethany Heinesh

Bethany Heinesh

Bethany has ghost-written hundreds of dating articles in the last 10 years for relationship experts all over the United States.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

Discuss This! Discuss This!
Advertiser Disclosure

Ladies, there is nothing more attractive to a man than a confident woman. I know a lot of women struggle with being themselves in mixed company and feel shy and embarrassed around men. It’s time to throw your insecurity out the window and show off your inner goddess.

If you need a little practice, get together with some guy friends and tell them you struggle with this issue. Ask them to help you learn to be comfortable. Show them your true self and let them love and accept you.

Before you go on your next date, meditate and repeat positive affirmations. I love the “Saturday Night Live” character Stuart Smalley from many moons ago. He would look in the mirror and say, “I’m good enough. I’m smart enough. And doggone it, people like me.”

Find whatever mantra works for you. Say these things over and over until you believe them and incorporate them into your being. Then get out there and show the world what you’ve got, girlfriend.

You’ll soon learn it’s a lot easier than you think and far more comfortable.

Advertiser Disclosure is a free online resource that offers valuable content and comparison services to users. To keep this resource 100% free, we receive compensation from many of the offers listed on the site. Along with key review factors, this compensation may impact how and where products appear across the site (including, for example, the order in which they appear). does not include the entire universe of available offers. Editorial opinions expressed on the site are strictly our own and are not provided, endorsed, or approved by advertisers.

Our Editorial Review Policy

Our site is committed to publishing independent, accurate content guided by strict editorial guidelines. Before articles and reviews are published on our site, they undergo a thorough review process performed by a team of independent editors and subject-matter experts to ensure the content’s accuracy, timeliness, and impartiality. Our editorial team is separate and independent of our site’s advertisers, and the opinions they express on our site are their own. To read more about our team members and their editorial backgrounds, please visit our site’s About page.