How To Make A Guy Want To Kiss You

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How to Make a Guy Want to Kiss You

Nick Slade

Written by: Nick Slade

Nick Slade

Nick spent 20 years in the dating scene before marriage. He has always been the guy friends would come to for advice on relationships, and he developed a knack for giving helpful insights. After college, Nick was a disc jockey for a few years, when the love generation was still alive, so Nick has a lot of relevant experience to draw from when it comes to every aspect of dating, falling in love and screwing things up. He holds Bachelor's degree in humanities and a slew of master’s credits in journalism. Nick is a news junkie and tries to keep up on the latest non-fiction when he has time. He has published two books on how to win at dating and relationships.

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Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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I will never understand why so many women think there is some secret to making a man want to kiss you. We were born wanting to kiss every female on the planet. Sometimes we might need a little nudge, I suppose.

But, since you insist, here is how to get kissed.

1. Be approachable.

Being the one who is always expected to make the first move is not an easy life. You may think it’s difficult waiting for him to notice you and ask you out, but a man never knows when he’ll step on a land mine that blows his ego and self-esteem to smithereens or when he might offend a lady he really cares about.

Reading your signals and your mind is no cakewalk, and rejection is not an option men are willing to carelessly risk.

The more relaxed your demeanor, the more relaxed your guy will be around you. The more open and welcoming your body language, the more comfortable and natural he will be with you.

If you seem threatened or threatening, that is likely to keep his lips at an arms distance. Smile, look at him, laugh, let go of all your tension, and just have fun. Then he will know he’s in a safe place with someone who likes him.

2. Use your secret weapons.

Nature gave you all the artillery you need to make a man surrender to your powers of seduction. We are just talking about kissing here, but the fact is that a kiss is the first real demonstration of your physical affection for one another. That’s why they call it “first base.”

Once he’s on the base path, he knows you like him as more than a friend, and he is intrigued by the possibilities of the more advanced levels of physical intimacy that you may also want to share.

3. Your nearness.

When you get close to a man, his adrenaline level will increase, giving him a little rush of excitement. You’ve probably felt it yourself. His heart will beat a little faster, and all of his senses will be heightened.

Get close to your man. Put your head on his shoulder if you can. Don’t hold your conversation at a business distance, but get into his intimate zone and get his juices flowing. They will be flowing for you.


“Put your face right in front of his, very

close, with your most endearing smile.”

4. Your scent.

Make sure all of his senses are filled with you. Men are drawn to the clean fragrance of your hair, the light scent of your perfume, and the delightful freshness of your freshly showered skin.

Don’t worry if you have a glow of sweat from dancing or the night air either. Day-old body odor is disgusting, but your fresh personal scent can be very compelling.

5. Your touch.

The most powerful of your superpowers is your touch. Your hand on his face or arm, your cheek on his cheek, his hand on your knee — these are the things that put him helplessly under your spell.

Skin touching skin is as sensual as it gets. Kissing, foreplay and sex are simply variations on this theme. Don’t overdo it, and be sure to tease him rather than please him. But by all means, touch him!

6. Give him permission.

So, by now he has seen your magnificent beauty, heard your melodic voice, smelled your feminine splendor, been touched by the silky perfection of your girl skin, and has become intoxicated by the high of simply being close to you.

The only sensory treat left for him to experience is the taste of your delicious lips. It’s time to close the deal.

You’ve made him feel comfortable and made yourself accessible emotionally and physically. You’ve reassured him that you like him with your attention and touch. You might be thinking it’s impossible for him not to know that you want him to kiss you, but he has fears as well as gentlemanly instincts.

Hug him, with your head on his shoulder. Put your face right in front of his, very close, with your most endearing smile. Look in his eyes. Put your hand behind his head and coax his head forward, ever so slightly. Tell him you like him.

He was born wanting to kiss. You just made him want you above all other women in this moment of time. And, if I’m not mistaken, he’s kissing you right now. It’s just that easy.

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