How To Make A Guy Initiate Sex

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How to Make a Guy Initiate Sex

Sam Stieler

Written by: Sam Stieler

Sam Stieler

Sam has been writing about dating and relationships for more than three years now. He holds a bachelor's degree from Bucknell University, has self-published a few of his own books and is currently working on mastering the double right turn in his salsa dancing classes.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

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What can you do if your man doesn’t initiate sex as often as you’d like him to? Even though you may feel you fill a more submissive role in your relationship’s bedroom tussles, as a woman, you have within you the power to get yours anytime you want, anywhere you want it, however you need it.

Constantly seduce your man.

Seduction isn’t an isolated action. Within a healthy sexual relationship, seduction constantly unfolds. If you want to be able to incite sex with your man whenever you want, you need to keep your relationship with your man charged at all times.

Lots of women share an essentially platonic relationship with their boyfriends and their husbands, and then they wonder why they aren’t able to initiate passionate sex at the drop of a hat. They treat their boyfriends and their husbands as “best friends,” “buddies” or as some other bland and boring “partner” 90 percent of the time, and then they expect their man to ravage them mercilessly without a moment’s notice.

This seduction “strategy” is just as nonsensical as the common male approach of treating their women as best friends, housekeepers or babysitters then expecting women to instantaneously switch modes and turn up the heat the second the mood strikes.

If you want to be able to make your man initiate sex whenever you’d like, you need to treat him as your lover, first and foremost. Keep most of your communication flirty, incite him with small teases throughout the day, take care of your appearance and dress in an attractive manner constantly. Do everything you can to express your feminine grace, mystery and pull at all times.

The simple act of maintaining your femininity and developing a relationship based around playing the role of complimentary opposite instead of 50/50 chore-partner is often enough to keep the spark burning within your relationship.

After all, if you will excuse the crude metaphor, it’s easier to quickly rev up a warm idling engine than a cold block of inert cylinders.


“Without making a single movement, challenging eye

contact allows you to throw down the gauntlet

and yield simultaneously with your eyes alone.”

Give him “The Look.”

There are plenty of ways a woman can pull a man into initiating sex, but none of them are as powerful or as exciting as “The Look.” Dirty dancing and filthy talk are both nice, but nothing hits a man as squarely as the right deployment of your eyes. Without saying a word, the right look will let a man know exactly what you’re thinking about, what you want, and most importantly, what you need.

You have two clear ways of using your eyes to force your man’s hand in the best possible way:

1. The Glance.

By continuously catching your man’s eye and then looking away, you will elicit his desire to chase and your desire to flee. This creates a momentary cat-and-mouse game that you should maintain for as long as you can manage. The longer you play coy, the longer your man will pursue, leading to an explosive coupling. Just remember, at some point you need to let him catch you.

2. The Challenge.

As much as I may love coy glances, I personally prefer eye contact that directly challenges, that seems to say, “What will you do?” The challenging look is the opposite of the glance. Hold your head down just a little bit and look up at your man directly, powerfully, yet with vulnerability.

Without making a single movement, challenging eye contact allows you to throw down the gauntlet and yield simultaneously with your eyes alone. If your man is much of a man at all, he will respond by showing you exactly what he’s capable of.

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