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The Short Version: Dawn Serra is a sex-positive, body-positive, LGBTQ-friendly dating and relationship coach with nothing but love for her clients. She supports singles and couples on the journey toward sexual fulfillment and relationship bliss. Her insights can give them the courage and clarity they need to move forward in their lives. Dawn works with clients one on one, and she also offers online classes, podcasts, conferences, and other free resources for people who want to build real, honest human connections.
So much of American culture is about being independent and taking care of yourself. You pull yourself up by your bootstraps, and you stand on your own two feet. If you’re sad, you don’t talk about it. If you’re in pain, you tough it out.
That may sound good on a bumper sticker, but it’s not a realistic or healthy way to deal with life’s many challenges. Today’s adults don’t have to face their problems alone, and it’s absolutely acceptable — even commendable — to ask for help when you need it.
Dawn Serra has established a safety net, support system, and therapeutic space for anyone feeling uncertain, lost, or conflicted in their love lives.
“We’re wired to be in supportive communities, to have our needs met by many people, to feel cared for, and to see we aren’t alone in our struggles,” she told us.
Dawn has endeavored to tap into the power of group work and community in her sex and relationship coaching business. She organizes workshops and programs that foster collective healing and lead to lasting changes in how people see themselves and their relationships.
Dawn described her coaching philosophy as “healing through pleasure.” She helps her clients overcome shame, identify their emotional needs, confront their own truths, and reconnect with their bodies, their joys, and their relationships.
During one-on-one sessions, Dawn doesn’t shy away from the tough topics, and she isn’t afraid to share her personal history if it will help her clients feel heard and less alone. She said she brings her truth as a queer, fat, sexual violence survivor with PTSD to every conversation. Her identity and experiences shape how she approaches dating and relationship challenges.
“One of my core philosophies is that the people I work with are the experts in their lives and their bodies,” she said. “I’m fiercely committed to creating spaces where we can be witnessed, believed, and cared for.”
Dawn works with cis, trans, and non-binary/agender women as well as straight and lesbian couples. Her clients do not fit in a box, and she doesn’t prejudge their experiences in the dating scene. When she meets someone new, Dawn focuses on listening to their stories and beliefs with an empathetic frame of mind.
“Each person I work with possesses tremendous wisdom and resilience,” Dawn said. “My job is not to assume I know what it’s like to live in their bodies, to have experienced their story, so my approach is to create a space where we can collaborate, get curious, ask new questions, and gently stretch into new possibilities.”
With her gentle guidance, Dawn helps people tap into their potential and learn to love themselves and love others with full hearts. She encourages her clients to become more in tune with their bodies and minds by embracing their pleasures and addressing their needs.
“I believe we do the best we can do until we can do better,” she said. “I want to help people find new ways of turning toward their own stories, behaviors, and beliefs with self-compassion.”
Dawn works with both singles and couples on deeply personal issues. Some people are dealing with relationship conflict, others have body-image issues or eating disorders, and still others are experiencing sexual frustrations or fears. No matter what obstacles are in their way, Dawn shows up ready to listen and offer solutions.
Over the years, Dawn’s compassionate, in-depth, and trauma-informed approach to coaching has yielded great results, rekindling a sense of joy in singles and bringing love, trust, and sexual excitement back to relationships.
“I’m interested in finding a way to balance our own needs and the needs of the relationships we most value,” Dawn told us. “Most of the people I work with have reached a point where they aren’t looking for a magic bullet solution and who are really ready to do some fun, juicy, challenging work to begin shedding old stories and to begin writing new ones.”
In addition to one-on-one coaching, Dawn hosts a weekly podcast called Sex Gets Real where she pulls back the curtains (or should I say bedsheets?) and discusses what goes on in the bedroom. She talks about fetishes, orgasms, sex etiquette, and other pleasurable topics in a straightforward and advice-driven way.
If you enjoy the podcast, you may also be interested in Dawn’s newly released five-week course Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy. The goal of the course is to foster deep conversations about pleasure and help people discover and befriend their bodies. “The healing that happens in this space is extraordinary,” Dawn said. “It’s some of the most powerful work I’ve had the pleasure of facilitating.”
Every year, Dawn hosts the Explore More Summit, a free online conference that lasts 10 days and offers tons of insight on intimacy, healing, emotional intelligence, trauma, and fat acceptance. The next conference will be held in January 2020.
Dawn has developed many programs and conferences that create a community around pleasure and liberate individuals from their insecurities, fears, and traumas. She creates resources that focus on emotional healing and nourishment, leading workshops, webinars, trainings, and conferences that enlighten people in the dating and relationship space.
“The community is endlessly supportive, and the talks are so rich that people often spend months revisiting them,” Dawn said.
Whether she’s sharing techniques with colleagues or proposing communication exercises to couples, Dawn collaborates with people to make a difference and bring awareness to important emotional issues. By the end of 2019, Dawn said she hopes to offer more in-person group coaching and body trust workshops in Vancouver, BC.
Dawn has witnessed tremendous transformations in her work as a sex-positive relationship coach. She has seen couples express their feelings and grow closer together. She has seen singles come into their own power and gain clarity on what they want. Her testimonials page is full of gracious messages written by former clients.
Erika took Dawn’s Power in Pleasure course in April 2019 and wrote that she appreciated feeling part of a community of people who understood where she was coming from. “I feel really strongly connected to a lot of things you say in the group chats and so much of the course content so far is feeling like just exactly what I need,” Erika said. “Enlightening and empowering. I’m feeling so much validation and solidarity here.”
A coaching client named Tammy said working individually with Dawn changed her perspective on sex, relationships, motherhood, and life in general. She originally came to Dawn to discuss sexual issues, but the conversation carried over into more emotional topics and led to great personal growth.
“I didn’t realize where working with you was going to take me, and I’m glad it took me here,” Tammy said. “I really truly thank you from the bottom of my heart. You’ve made such a huge impact on my life.”
Dawn told us a story about a married couple who came to her because they felt disconnected and wanted to become better partners, lovers, and parents. The coaching sessions gave them a chance to find validation for everything they were doing right and learn new communication techniques to ease tension and excite playful passion.
Six months later, Dawn said the couple had completely turned things around and now was meeting each other’s emotional and sexual needs. Dawn said their transformation was incredible to behold, and it’s these stories that make her excited to work with people.
“I feel gratitude for what I do each and every day,” Dawn told us. “We deserve more love, more pleasure, more connection, and part of how we cultivate that is with boundary work, finding ways to use our voice and articulate our needs.”
We all face challenges, and it’s not very practical — or very fun — to face them alone. Dawn has created many coaching programs and resources to support singles and couples in their loneliest hours.
As an intimacy and relationship expert, Dawn can give people new strategies to break their negative patterns and overcome obstacles. In every coaching session, podcast, and post, her joyful energy inspires people to reclaim power and pleasure in their lives.
“It’s incredibly freeing and healing to be validated, to know that you aren’t the only one and that you aren’t broken,” she said. “If people are looking for a soft place to land, that’s what I strive to create.”