I’m Dating a Wonderful But Not Hot Guy. Should I End It?

Gina Stewart
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Reader Question:

I am a college freshman and am very attractive. I have hooked up with the hottest boys in the school but none have turned into relationships.

I am now exclusive with a wonderful but not-so-hot guy, and everyone is judging me for it. I am not that attracted to this guy physically, but his personality and friends are all great.

I want to date him, but I feel like I am settling and could get someone who I like a lot more. Should I end it or not?

-Elizabeth (Connecticut)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

Elizabeth, I think you answered your own question. You said you’ve hooked up with the hottest guys and none have turned into relationships. There’s a road you don’t need to go down to know what’s at the end of it.

You’re with a guy who makes you happy. He doesn’t need to pass anyone else’s standards. Finding someone you like is hard enough. If you’ve found that with him, consider yourself lucky and others will think you lucky, too.

If you think you can like someone more, then you’re not doing this poor guy any favors. Let him find a girl who will appreciate him.


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