Is Having Sex on the First Date Wrong?

Kara Pound

Written by: Kara Pound

Kara Pound

Kara Pound is an award-winning journalist based in St. Augustine, Florida. She holds a bachelor's degree in journalism from Flagler College. Her work has been published in INKED, Natural Awakenings, Design Aglow, Memphis Flyer, Jacksonville Magazine, E/Environmental Magazine, and dozens more. Check out some of Kara's work at

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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There really is no way to candy coat this one. Ladies, having sex on the first date is an absolute no-no. It’s not “wrong” per se, but it shows a man that you don’t have enough self-respect or self-restraint to wait until you’re in a committed relationship to make whoopee.

This isn’t the ‘60s – there’s no longer such a thing as free love. These days, you have to worry about HIV and AIDS, Hepatitis B, Gonorrhea, Herpes and other STDs. If having sex didn’t come with potential consequences, we may be having a different conversation. A friend told me once that he doesn’t sleep with a woman unless he could imagine himself having a kid with her. Even when you think you’re being responsible, something like a broken condom can change your entire life – and more so for the female than the man.

Ladies, don’t give it away too easily. If you wait until a relationship that has mutual trust and admiration, then the first time having sex will be much more amazing.

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