He Wants a Relationship with Me in the Future. Should I Be Worried?

Gina Stewart

Written by: Gina Stewart

Gina Stewart

Gina is the owner of Expert Online Dating. As an online dating consultant, she helps men and women maximize their online dating experiences to get more dates. You can visit her website, www.ExpertOnlineDating.com, for more information or to contact her.

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Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Reader Question:

My best friend and I decided to tell each other how we feel and we had sex. He told me he wanted to have a relationship in the future but now he doesn’t. He said he really cares for me and he sees me as his wife and mother to his kids.

Should I be worried about him not wanting to be with me now?


Gina Stewart’s Answer:

This guy didn’t just sleep with you. He mind-fucked you. It’s pretty much the worst thing he could do. He put a leash on your heart. That’s a really lame move on his part.

A man’s actions should match his words — that’s how you know a real man. If he really wanted you to be his wife and mother of his kids, he wouldn’t take a chance of you being single and finding someone else.

This guy wants to have his cake and eat it, too. He wants be single and enjoy new women until he chooses that HE is ready for YOU. If he doesn’t care enough about you to snap you off the market, he doesn’t care about you enough.

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