How Have Exciting Sex Life After 50

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How to Have an Exciting Sex Life After 50

Nick Slade

Written by: Nick Slade

Nick Slade

Nick spent 20 years in the dating scene before marriage. He has always been the guy friends would come to for advice on relationships, and he developed a knack for giving helpful insights. After college, Nick was a disc jockey for a few years, when the love generation was still alive, so Nick has a lot of relevant experience to draw from when it comes to every aspect of dating, falling in love and screwing things up. He holds Bachelor's degree in humanities and a slew of master’s credits in journalism. Nick is a news junkie and tries to keep up on the latest non-fiction when he has time. He has published two books on how to win at dating and relationships.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Sex is a lifelong activity for both men and women. Don’t let any images from our youth-obsessed culture deter you from pursuing your birthright. If you have an able body and willing heart, follow your manly instincts and go for the gusto. There are always ways to have an exciting sex life after 50, so it’s up to you to be aware of yourself and your partner.

While it’s true the reality of aging does modify the way we need to approach sexual activity, your natural wisdom and the drug store have everything you need to allow you to enjoy great sexual satisfaction throughout your entire lifetime.

1. Physical fitness = sexual fitness.

The best way to ensure that you are always ready for the joys of sex is to keep your body in good physical condition. There’s no need to lift heavy weights, as that may even be detrimental to your performance in the bedroom.

Instead, stay active, take the stairs instead of the elevator, get out to the coffee shop every morning, take a walk and breathe the fresh outdoor air, ride a bicycle or spinning cycle at home, eat fruits and vegetables and don’t spend too much time in front of the TV or engrossed in a spy thriller novel. Keep up with your dating image and stand tall, keep the ladies guessing.

Get your heart pumping at a mildly aerobic level every day, eat healthy foods and just keep moving. Check with your doctor for a routine that is right for you.

2. Understand and empower your woman.

Communication is the key. You can’t have great sex if your woman is unwilling or unable. It is normal for libido levels to decrease with age.

Your sexual expectations of days gone by may no longer work for either of you. Topical treatments and just getting her to focus on her own sexual gratification can open up a whole new world of sexual delight for both of you.


“Even if nothing seems to get

you ready, don’t give up.”

3. Reinvent your sexual routine.

Get rid of your old routine all together, and embark on a new kind of sex life that’s appropriate for the two of you now.

Try morning sex or a little “afternoon delight.” Your blood flow may be better, and your bodies and minds will not revert to old ingrained scenarios and difficulties. Spend a couple of hours at it, if you have the time.

Get each other relaxed and comfortable in bed together. Talk, touch and romance her. Deal with every little objection or concern as it comes along, and take things slowly.

Give her all of your love, security and romance before you make love to her, and encourage her to tell you exactly what she wants and needs as you go along.

Don’t forget to recharge. It may take three or four days instead of one or two in order to build the libido back up for the greatest sexual intensity.

4. Take advantage of advances in medical science.

Her body and sexual responses change over the years, and so does yours. Testosterone, vitamins, herbal enhancements and modern erectile drugs can all help give you a vigorous and satisfying sexual experience.

If one thing doesn’t work for you, work with your doctor to find a solution that does. There are many different treatments available. Even if you don’t need erectile enhancement, you may find that some remedies help with stamina and the intensity of your experience.

Even if nothing seems to get you ready for action, don’t give up on the sexual experience. There are many things you can do to please and excite your lady, and you know that her pleasurable response will excite you, too.

When you actively participate in the game, you never know what might pop up!

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