Online Dating

We All Want Love! Why You Don’t Need to Put it in Your Profile

Gina Stewart

Written by: Gina Stewart

Gina Stewart

Gina is the owner of Expert Online Dating. As an online dating consultant, she helps men and women maximize their online dating experiences to get more dates. You can visit her website,, for more information or to contact her.

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Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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So I’ve been writing a series of articles exposing some common written profiles of daters that aren’t doing them any justice. Take a look at the next one and see if you can figure out what I’m talking about:

I am looking for my partner, my best friend, my lover, my everything. I need someone like myself. I want someone who likes to stay in and likes to go out. I love my friends and family. They mean the world to me. I really enjoy spending time with people I care about. I want someone who can’t live without me and I can’t live without them – someone I would do anything for and they would do anything for me.

I like to go out, but sometimes I would like to just sit on the couch and cuddle with that special someone. I am looking for someone I can be myself around and someone I can enjoy spending time with. I’d like us to enjoy similar things. I like to have fun and I’m looking for someone else who likes to have fun. Chemistry is really important to me. I need to feel attraction toward my partner. I also need to feel a connection. I’d like to find someone I care about and someone that cares for me. I love to laugh. “

Are you picking up on the theme?

This profile is everywhere and it’s riddled with statements I call, “Well, duh.” After every sentence, you can say, “Well, duh, everyone wants that.”

This profile describes pretty much everyone in the world and what they are looking for.


“You only have one chance of making

an impression. Make it count.”

What’s wrong with that?

Well if everyone wants the exact same thing, it seems like people should be easy to match up, right?

And therein lays the problem.

We know everyone doesn’t match everyone else, which is why this profile is useless. It doesn’t tell anyone anything substantial about you to determine whether or not you’d get along in real life.

It’s similar to the factoid profile and the profile filled with adjectives.

Once again, your profile is meant to give people a sense of you personally and your personality.

You’ve wasted a whole bunch of space on things that pretty much go without saying.

You don’t want to waste space because sometimes you only have one chance of making an impression. Make it count.

Have you seen any other examples of stating the obvious? Do you have any other profile peeves?

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