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26% of Men Want to Be Picked Up for a First Date

C. Price

Written by: C. Price

C. Price

C. Price is part of DatingAdvice.com's content team. She writes advice articles, how-to guides, and studies — all relating to dating, relationships, love, sex, and more.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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The expectations and perceptions of going on a first date have changed over the years, with more daters now substituting drinks for dinner and with more women in the driver’s seat than ever.

New DatingAdvice.com research shows one in four men want to be picked up for a first date as opposed to picking up their date or meeting at the date location.

And it appears this pattern rings true for most men, regardless of their marital status, age, race and region.

Married men were 11 percent more likely to prefer being picked up than married women, while men aged 25 to 34 were 14 percent more likely than their female counterparts.

DatingAdvice.com expert Gina Stewart said a good portion of men, no matter their demographic, like to be treated well on a first date just like women.

“I hear in retirement communities the women who still have their driver’s licenses are the hot dating commodity, but why this is something spanning all ages and demographics is surprising,” she said.

“One in four men want to

be picked up for a first date.”

One in three African-American men said they want their date to pick them up versus just one in five African-American women.

Does Southern hospitality really exist? The results show 30 percent of men living in the South think it’s their date’s responsibility to pick them up compared to 27 percent of Southern women.

Gay respondents and women with higher incomes were among the least likely groups to say they wanted to be picked up for a first date, with just 12 percent and 15 percent admitting so, respectively.

The study surveyed 1,080 respondents over the course of three weeks, balancing responses by age, gender, income, race, sexuality and other factors in order to accurately represent the U.S. population. The study has a margin of error of +/- 2.8%.

The Breakdown: Americans Who Want to Be Picked Up

By gender:

  • Male: 26%
  • Female: 27%

By sexuality:

  • Straight: 27%
  • Gay: 12%

By marital status:

  • Single, Never Married: 26%
  • Married: 28%
  • Divorced: 18%

By age:

  • 18 to 24: 38%
  • 25 to 34: 31%
  • 35 to 44: 19%
  • 45 to 54: 24%
  • 54 to 64: 20%
  • 65 and older: 31%

By race:

  • White: 25%
  • African-American: 28%
  • Hispanic: 31%
  • Asian: 26%

By income:

  • Under $25,000: 31%
  • $25,000 to $49,999: 27%
  • $50,000 to $74,999: 24%
  • $75,000 to $99,999: 25%
  • $100,000 to $124,999: 16%
  • $125,000 or higher: 31%

By region:

  • Northeast: 30%
  • Midwest: 24%
  • South: 28%
  • West: 24%

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