It’s not just a dating dilemma for daters over 40 and 50. Singles of every age group always want to know where they can meet quality singles their age. They sidle up to me after a dating workshop to ask their question covertly. It’s like they’re thinking, “I’ll get the secret place and access code and not everyone else will.”
But there is no magic pill. There is no one single place for senior singles to meet a quality mature mate. There are, however, places where you can go and meet more mature singles in your age group.
Yes, truth be told, there are fewer singles in your age range as we all age. Single dating in your 40s, 50s and 60s will be different than the candy store experience of our 20s and 30s, when there were always an abundance of singles to pick and choose from.
With that reality, know that there might be fewer singles your age. However, ask yourself, “Do I really need to meet 25 singles to get a first date?” Or would it be OK to go somewhere and meet just one, two or three quality singles around your age and date perhaps one or two of them?
Where can you meet quality senior singles in a no pressure casual environment?
- Senior singles sites.
- McDonalds, weekday mornings.
- At the gym, weekdays after 9 a.m.
You do need to get out there in person eventually and actually meet your fellow mature singles if you ever want to get a boyfriend.
Chime in here with your questions and comments, and I’ll aim to answer your questions in a future article.
It’s easier said than done….
Haha. I like the “after 9am” qualifier for the “at the gym” suggestion. I was thinking a few other places might be:
1. dance class
2. meetup.com – at a meetup for an activity that you genuinely enjoy that isn’t one primarily for your own gender.
3. Community College night classes – if you’re actually interested in the subject, as well.
What are your thoughts on these places?
I think a lot of people find it more difficult to flirt and meet new people as they age. I particularly appreciated your comment on the quantity of people – thanks for a great article April!
April,
You are correct, getting out there and meeting people in person is key to success.
I’m glad you mentioned McDonald’s (here it would be Hardee’s but it’s the same idea). It doesn’t take too long to figure out where the morning coffee meetings are taking place. I just never thought of that as a place to meet someone. Great suggestion.
A coffee shop is a lower-risk date option. You can opt to meet during the day or at night. They normally don’t stay open too late and you have a casual setting to chat! Glad you like the idea, Suzanne!
Hi I am now a Widow of thirty five yr’s now what I cant just start flurting and acting like Im this up to date women . I DON’T KNOW HOW !!!
Hi Darla, please ping me offline over at my website for initially getting back to the lightest flirting. Meanwhile, I, too, have been widowed. I really do recommend venturing back into dating very slowly, honoring your own pace for things. Check out: http://www.datingadvice.com/advice/how-midlife-singles-can-date-again-after-a-death What questions do you have about getting back into dating that I can help address in forthcoming articles?