The Secrets To Attracting Your Ideal Partner

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The Secrets to Attracting Your Ideal Partner

Rachel Dack

Written by: Rachel Dack

Rachel Dack

Rachel Dack is a licensed clinical professional counselor (LCPC) and relationship coach specializing in individual and couples psychotherapy. Rachel's areas of expertise include relationships, dating, mindfulness, anxiety, depression and self-esteem.

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Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Your ideal partner: Is she a spur of the moment kind of gal, a steady planner or somewhere in between? Is it her laughter, nurturing presence or quirky nature that makes you smile?

Would you describe her as an outgoing people’s person or as a quieter, more introverted woman? Does she model respect, honesty and kindness?

No matter how you would describe your ideal partner, the most important aspect of attracting and keeping your special person is the belief that she can be yours.

Yes, I said yours!

Your self-confidence is crucial to a successful dating life and attracting love into your life. Believing you are lovable, deserving and worthy of having the relationship and the life you dream of is one of the major ways of achieving these very things.

This sense of confidence is huge in taking the courageous leap from being unknown to your crush or potential partner to getting to know each other.

Simply put, what you believe you are capable of having or achieving in the relationship world is what you attract.

Women also love confident men. You can build your confidence by tuning into your accomplishments and positive qualities and taking care of yourself in healthy ways.

You can also choose to think about what you have to offer to your ideal partner instead of only looking at what your ideal partner can offer you.

Below are a few quick tips to build up your confidence and attract the type of woman you want:

1. Soak in the good stuff and embrace positive thinking.

Strive to approach transitions, challenges and difficulties with an optimistic attitude.  Make a commitment to learn and grow from your mistakes or struggles without being too harsh on yourself.

Don’t let every bad date or experience bring you down. Instead, keep your focus on your goal. Be a grateful, glass half-full kind of guy.

2. Be active in achieving your personal and career goals.

Focus on what inspires and fulfills you and be passionate about what you do. You will naturally feel more confident and at ease if you like what you are doing and are on track with meeting your goals.

Also, tune into your small steps and accomplishments along the way.

“Understand that dating

takes patience and practice.”

3. Meet your own needs, whether you are single or not.

This relates to managing your expectations about a woman meeting them for you. Keep up with your hygiene, exercise, relaxation, sleep, nutrition and social life.

4. Act like a gentleman.

You may believe you will feel more confident in the moment if you get her in bed quickly, but most likely your ideal woman would not jump right into bed with you because you want someone who respects herself and you.

Be confident and OK with slowing down the pace of dating and not being physically intimate. Women are drawn to confidence, not pushiness.

5. Know who you are.

And identify your strengths, values and positive qualities.

Without striving for perfection (it’s impossible), be the best version of yourself and commit to actively growing as a man and partner.

If you are feeling a bit insecure or want to increase your confidence, make a list of what makes you a catch.

Also, keep track of your life experiences in which you felt strong, confident, empowered and happy for a natural confidence boost during the ups and downs of dating.

To open yourself up to the love you are looking for and not miss out on the opportunity to form a relationship with your ideal partner, it is inevitable that you will have to take some risks and jump out of your comfort zone.

There is absolutely a vulnerability aspect of putting yourself out there and engaging in relationships.

Be courageous, let go of your insecurities (we all have them!) and understand that dating takes patience and practice. Everything is not a personal rejection, so don’t let too much rejection bring you down.

Being in the moment, having fun and believing that you will find what you are looking for also makes dating more empowering!

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