How Do I Balance Being a Good Guy and a Bad Boy?

Bethany Heinesh

Written by: Bethany Heinesh

Bethany Heinesh

Bethany has ghost-written hundreds of dating articles in the last 10 years for relationship experts all over the United States.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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To me, there is nothing sexier than a man who strikes the perfect balance of good guy/bad boy. There is something alluring about a man who has a sincere desire to do good but struggles with bad boy behavior.

Guys, if you are looking to find a middle ground for the coexisting polarities in your personality, it’s easier said than done. One will usually take precedence and come to the forefront more frequently than the other.

If you’re naturally more bad than good, guess which one will win? If you’re naturally more good than bad, your good guy will feel guilty about your bad boy behavior. My advice is to do your very best to be a good guy without being a pushover.

You may need to get counseling or read a few self-help books. No matter what, don’t be too clingy or needy, and give good chase when a woman is pursuing you.

Deep down, women want to be with a good man, but we are repelled by weak men who let us use them as an emotional punching bag.

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