How Get Girl Ask Your Number

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How to Get a Girl to Ask for Your Number

Kara Pound

Written by: Kara Pound

Kara Pound

Kara Pound is an award-winning journalist based in St. Augustine, Florida. She holds a bachelor's degree in journalism from Flagler College. Her work has been published in INKED, Natural Awakenings, Design Aglow, Memphis Flyer, Jacksonville Magazine, E/Environmental Magazine, and dozens more. Check out some of Kara's work at

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Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Chances are, unless you studied magic under the great Harry Houdini, getting a girl to ask for your number is a difficult trick to master. It takes one part gusto, two parts bravado, two parts self-confidence and a little bit of reverse psychology.

Let’s take a look at an example of a guy succeeding at having a girl ask for his number.

A guy walks into a bar and is immediately drawn to one of those sexy librarian types. He assumes she’s a postgraduate student at the local university. He orders a drink — scotch on the rocks — and casually sits down at the table she’s sitting at with two girlfriends.

Approach her with confidence.

Him: “You ladies go to University X, don’t you?” he asks.

Her: “Yes, how did you know that?” sexy librarian wonders.

Him: “I could just tell. Do any of you happen to be studying psychology?”

Her: “No, we’re premed students, why?”

Give her a reason to ask for your number.

Him: “Oh, bummer. My friend and I were just discussing the psychological and sociological reasoning behind why it’s always a girl’s duty to give her number out and not vice versa.”

Take this situation as an example. When I walked into this bar, I was immediately drawn to you. But you’re a premed student and I bet you don’t have a ton of time for socializing, so it would just make sense for me to give you my number. That way you can call me when you have a free night rather than having me always calling and you having to tell me you’re studying. Make sense?”

Her: “That actually does make sense. Society has changed a lot over the past few decades. Why are we still so archaic about something as silly as a phone number?”

Him: “Exactly!”

Her: “Well, let’s do away with the insanity. May I have your number, so I can call you when I have a night off from studying?”

See what I mean? The guy gave the girl an honest and practical reason for why she should ask for his phone number. And because he was so self-confident and forward about his intentions of wanting to go out with her, he immediately became less of a threat.

She felt comfortable asking for his digits because the conversation was already on the table. It wasn’t a request out of left field.

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