5 Best Ways to Meet Local Women (For Dates & Hookups)

Men's Dating

5 Best Ways to Meet Local Women (For Dates & Hookups)

Hayley Matthews Hayley Matthews
Posted:

Being single can be frustrating, especially if you’ve been actively looking for a hookup, date, or relationship for a while and haven’t had any luck. You’re not alone, though. As of 2014, more than half of Americans 16 and older were single.

That may be somewhat comforting, but remember that these singles are all over the country. That’s not necessarily helpful to you, so we’ve narrowed down the top five ways to meet women in your town, city, or state.

1. Join a Dating Site or App

Since the ’90s, approximately 8,000 dating sites have been created in the world, and more than 40 million people have tried online dating. It’s da bomb, as beloved hip hop duo Kris Kross would say.

Not only that, but online dating is the quickest and cheapest way to meet women in your area. Practically every dating site/app allows you to search by location, and practically every dating site/app offers a free trial or membership.

Match, EliteSingles, and Zoosk are three of our experts’ favorite dating sites/apps, and you can learn a little bit more about each by checking out the graphics below:

Match is the head honcho of the online dating industry, and for good reason. It was founded in 1993 and officially launched in 1995; it has one of the largest audiences of any dating site (42 million members and 39 million monthly visitors). And it’s had the most success (Match has led to more romantic connections than every other dating site).

★★★★★
4.9/5.0

Relationships: Friends, Dates, and Relationships

Match System: Browse by zip, age, appearance, more

Our Experts Say: “Match has facilitated the most dates and relationships of any dating site, and its large audience and high success rate make it our top review...” Full Review »

Browse Free: View Photos Now

Zoosk has a nearly unbeatable app experience because its mobile version has been around longer than a lot of other dating sites. Integrated with Facebook and Google+, Zoosk has made the sign-up process super easy for singles, so they can get to matching within minutes.

★★★★★
4.6/5.0

Relationships: Serious Relationships

Match System: Search, Receive Partner Suggestions

Our Experts Say: “Elite Singles is a leading dating site just for busy, single professionals. More than 80% of members have earned a college degree, and most are looking for a serious commitment...” Full Review »

Browse Free: View Photos Now

Quantity isn’t a big concern for EliteSingles — this dating site cares more about quality. Yes, you’ll receive matches every day, but it won’t be dozens and dozens. It’ll just be matches that EliteSingles know you’ll be interested in.

★★★★★
4.6/5.0

Relationships: Fun Dates, Serious Relationships

Match System: Search and get match recommendations

Our Experts Say: “Zoosk is integrated with social media sites, like Facebook and Google+, so it's very popular with singles on the go...” Full Review »

Browse Free: View Photos Now

Something all three of the dating sites above have in common is they all have a free membership that never expires (unless you hide or delete your profile). With these free memberships, you can add your information and photos, view and like profiles, and flirt and communicate in numerous ways.

2. Through Friends and Family

You don’t have to go on this dating trek alone — your friends and family members can be there to support you and actually do some of the work for you. Let them know to keep their eyes peeled and their ears open whenever they’re at work, school, the gym, the doctor’s office, or anywhere else they may go. You never know who’s single.

I have proof that this works, too. I actually set up a family friend of mine with an acquaintance, and they’ve been together for 10 years now.

Photo of a woman introducing himself to someone

You’re not alone in this — have your friends and family members keep an eye out for people you’d be compatible with. Then get them to introduce you.

If you go this route, though, that means you need to be open to being set up on blind dates and having your loved ones somewhat involved in your dating life. It might be a bit weird at first, so maybe set up some boundaries at the beginning. For example, they can’t tell a potential date about your dating past.

3. Sign Up for an Interest Group, Sports Team, or Class

Joining an interest group (e.g., a book club), coed sports team, or educational class (e.g., cooking) kind of kills a bunch of birds with one stone. In addition to being surrounded by new people, you’re also potentially getting exercise, learning something new, breaking out of your shell, enjoying the outdoors, and/or picking up a new hobby. These activities also make it easy to start a conversation because you can just comment on the task at hand.

Photo of a couple playing golf

Intramural sports can help you meet other singles as well as add a new hobby to your list.

Some awesome resources for finding a local interest group, intramural sports team, or educational class include Meetup, Eventbrite, Ticketfly, imleagues, or your local college or university. Or you can simply Google something like “intramural sports near me” or “interest groups [enter city].”

4. Spend Time Volunteering

Whether you want to help animals, feed the homeless, clean up the beaches, fight discrimination against the LGBTQ community, or make a political difference in your town, volunteering with a local nonprofit is a fantastic way to do that. Plus, you’re guaranteed to meet people you didn’t know before and who have similar values, goals, and lifestyles. Knowing those kinds of things right off the bat helps narrow down the field.

Photo of people volunteering

Do something good for your community and expand your social circle by volunteering for a local nonprofit or charity.

VolunteerMatch and GreatNonprofits are two sites that we love and that we’ve personally interviewed. You can read both articles here and here. On these sites, you can find the right volunteering opportunity for you by browsing by city, type of activity, and things like that, and you can read reviews written by fellow volunteers to see what kind of experiences they’ve had.

5. Go to Bars, Clubs, and Parties

For decades, going to a bar or club or attending a party have been tried-and-true ways to meet women. Maybe having a drink gives you the courage to approach a woman, or maybe the music makes it seem less stressful, serious, and intimidating. Whatever the case may be, don’t discount bars, clubs, and parties if that’s your kind of scene.

It doesn’t even have to be anything crazy — you could go to a friend’s weekly game night, a sibling’s monthly poker tournament, or a coworker’s quarterly happy hour at the restaurant down the street. Basically, try to say yes to as many outings as you can.

Photo of a couple at a bar

Bars, clubs, and parties are classic ways to meet women — you just have to have confidence and approach them the right way.

While this step is usually best for one-night stands, I’m sure most of us know someone who met their boyfriend/husband or girlfriend/wife at a bar, club, or party. One of my exes is someone I met at a party. One of my close friends is married to a guy she met at a party, and a friend of a friend has been dating someone she met at a bar for months now. It can happen to anyone.

Expanding Your Social Circle = Improving Your Dating Life

It’s a simple equation: The more you put yourself out there, the more people you meet. The more people you meet, the wider your social circle gets. The wider your social circle gets, the more you’ll increase your chances of finding that special someone. The more you increase your chances, the less time and effort you have to put into it. So give these tips a try (maybe even one at a time), and we’re confident that you’ll see drastic changes to your dating life. Soon you won’t be part of that singles statistic!