Reader Question:
Maybe I’m blind, but a gal I’m interested in seems to be interested in me. I get the light touching, big eyes, etc. When she texts, she will often send smiley faces at the end. The issue is we work for the same company, different departments. She said she will not date a co-worker, not that we are in point of fact. She even said she is very particular about who she lets into her private life and then let me in.
Am I just a slow, dimwitted man who is blind to the signs?
-Nick (Colorado)
Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:
Nick,
Maybe you are slow or maybe she’s giving you so many mixed signals that you can’t make heads or tails of it. So, to help you out, I’ve made a careful list of all the signals and their potential meaning:
1. Light touching — Good sign she’s interested.
2. Big eyes — If the eye contact lasts more than two seconds, she’s physically attracted to you.
3. Smiley faces when she texts — means nothing. Women use emoticons in business and pleasure equally.
4. She said she will not date a co-worker — It only means she’s trying to show you she has ethics and may need help in negotiating her boundaries. I’d bring this subject up again.
5. Tells you she doesn’t let many people into her private life and then let you in — You’re in!
My advice. Move slowly. Stay friends for a while. When in doubt, talk (not text!) about it. Good luck!
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