How To Find Time For Sex After Kids

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How to Find Time for Sex After Kids

Kara Pound

Written by: Kara Pound

Kara Pound

Kara Pound is an award-winning journalist based in St. Augustine, Florida. She holds a bachelor's degree in journalism from Flagler College. Her work has been published in INKED, Natural Awakenings, Design Aglow, Memphis Flyer, Jacksonville Magazine, E/Environmental Magazine, and dozens more. Check out some of Kara's work at

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As the mom of a three year old, I know firsthand how difficult it can be to find those intimate moments with your guy. Whether your little one’s in day care or you’re a stay-at-home mom, it’s not easy to find time for yourself — let alone time to nurture your sex life. There are diapers to change, runny noses to wipe, laundry to be done, dinner to be made, etc.

Chances are, at the end of the day, you’re looking forward to a glass of wine and an hour of reality television more so than sex. I mean, you really only have an hour to yourself before you have to catch some Zzz’s, wake up and do it all over again.

But you need to remember that you and your guy are a team, so it’s important to make time for intimacy. Just how and when do you do that?

Recruit friends and family.

If you can’t afford a babysitter, ask family or friends to help you out every other week with child care. This way you can plan a date night. Go out to dinner, catch a concert, or make a picnic to take to the beach.

Whatever you decide to do, remember that this night is about the two of you. And the best part of date night is that when you get home, the kiddies will be fast asleep in their beds. Hint, hint.

Take advantage of lunch breaks.

A few other great ways to find time for intimacy when you’re busy being parents is to meet at home on your lunch breaks once or twice a week. Or if one of you travels for work, see if you can finagle your other half on to the trip.

You’ll most likely have meetings during the day, but mornings and evenings will be free for some one-on-one time. Also, if your kid(s) still takes naps, that’s another great break to be with each other.

Whatever works for your lifestyle, just remember how important it is to find that time to be together and get intimate. A healthy sex life leads to a healthy marriage. Remember what author Robert Byrne said, “Anybody who believes that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach flunked geography.”

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