Omg The Abcs Of Online Dating

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OMG! The ABCs of Online Dating

Bethany Heinesh

Written by: Bethany Heinesh

Bethany Heinesh

Bethany has ghost-written hundreds of dating articles in the last 10 years for relationship experts all over the United States.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

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One of the coolest things about chatting online is the use of a distinct language spoken only on the Internet, a language I believe actually simplifies and streamlines the dating process.

Online dating creates the perfect atmosphere for two people to safely get to know a lot about each other in a relatively short period of time. All pretenses are banished during online communication because it very much gets to the heart of the matter without physical distractions.

While most people have a general understanding of cyber-communication, others are completely oblivious to it. In today’s world, you must be educated in online etiquette if you plan to date and chat online. Or you can just print this article and put it by your computer to use as quick and easy reference!

The tricky part about chatting online is staying in touch with the latest dating acronyms and being well-versed in cyber symbols and abbreviations. If you’re not careful, you might stumble blindly into an embarrassing situation you could have otherwise avoided with just a quick review of some common acronyms.

Before you log in.

There are a few things you should take note of when surfing the Web for your soul mate. First, certain letters and combinations of letters have very specific meanings and are generally accepted universally, often across many languages. Second, chatting acronyms can sometimes be misleading or downright silly but, nonetheless, are unmistakable to cyber dating veterans.

If you misuse them, they’ll spot it right away and may even discontinue the conversation. Also, many people on dating sites abbreviate their physical appearance, religious status or sexual preferences with well-known acronyms. This area is of particular importance, so be sure to pay attention.

When sifting through profiles, follow these guidelines and you’ll never go wrong when searching for Mr. Right.


“These chats should be

fun and lighthearted.”


  • A = Asian
  • B = Black
  • BBW = Big Beautiful Woman
  • BDSM = Bondage/Discipline/Sadomasochism
  • Bi = Bisexual
  • C = Christian
  • CD = Cross Dresser
  • D = Divorced
  • G = Gay
  • FWB = Friends With Benefits
  • H = Hispanic
  • LTR = Long Term Relationship
  • MBA = Married but available (Huh?)
  • MSM = Men Seeking Men
  • NBM = Never Been Married
  • NS = Nonsmoker
  • WSW = Women Seeking Women
  • SBF/SWF = Single Black/White Female
  • SWS = Sex Without Strings
  • TS =Transsexual
  • TV = Transvestite

OK, now let’s identify some commonly used blurbs that will make the conversation run more smoothly. If you aren’t sure about someone’s usage of an acronym or you don’t see it here, take the time to look it up before you assume you’re in the know.


  • AML = All My Love
  • ASAP = As Soon as Possible
  • ASL = Age, sex, location
  • ASL? = They are asking for your age, sex and location
  • IDK = I don’t know
  • OMG = Oh My God!
  • LOL = Laugh Out Loud!
  • LDR = Long Distance Relationships
  • LMAO = Laughing my a*s off
  • LMFAO = Laughing My F*cking A*s off
  • MWC = Married with Children (stay away!)
  • ROTF = Rolling On the Floor
  • ROTFLMAO = Rolling On the Floor, Laughing My A*s off
  • SMH = Shaking My Head (in disapproval)
  • SWAK = Sealed with a Kiss
  • TNX or THX = Thanks
  • WLTM = Would Like to Meet
  • F2F = Face to Face
  • WTF? = What the f*ck?

Believe it or not, your usage and understanding of these acronyms in flirtatious conversations can help or hurt the development of your relationship, depending on the execution and delivery of them.

Women have a tendency to overuse LOL, inserting it into online conversations at inappropriate places or using it when they don’t actually think something is funny. This can be a real turn-off to a man if he thinks your LOLs indicate you’re a ditz. Nervously using LOL, or OMG for that matter, to avoid blank spots in the conversation is a no-no.

Set your own rules.

Some people take online acronyms seriously and literally in chats, while others use them in a more figurative, playful sense. Be sure to set your own rules about online acronyms and conversations, and be true to them during your online dating journey. These chats should be fun, lighthearted and ultimately lead to a better understanding of the person you are communicating with.


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