Sue Desanto Teaches Women To Love Themselves And Change Dating Patterns

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Relationship Coaching For Singles: Sue DeSanto Teaches Women to Love Themselves & Change Their Dating Patterns

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The Short Version: Through her Chicago therapy practice, Sue DeSanto offers compassionate relationship coaching to singles across the US. She augments traditional therapy sessions with in-depth coaching programs designed to help women understand what they want and how to get it. If you’re wondering how to attract the right person or what to do to maintain a relationship, you can turn to Sue for experienced and measured guidance. The trained therapist and relationship coach provides empowering resources geared toward singles who are ready for the real deal. Singles from all walks of life come to Sue DeSanto to talk through emotional hurdles, relationship struggles, and other personal issues holding them back from the life they envision for themselves.

In her 30s, Sue DeSanto didn’t really know what she wanted. Her marriage of 13 years was over, and she had two kids and no clue what to do next. She went on a handful of first dates but felt petrified by the idea that she’d make the same mistakes she’d made in her last relationship. She was dating as an adult for the first time, and there was no road map to tell her which way to go.

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Relationship coach Sue DeSanto uses her insights and skills as a therapist to motivate clients to make positive changes in their love lives.

The therapist knew she had to get her dating life in order, and she knew she couldn’t do it alone, so she sought professional guidance.

Sue took a six-month program with a therapist who trained her to become a savvy relationship coach. As she learned more about dating and relationship dynamics, she kept thinking to herself, “Everyone should learn how to do this.” The program helped her see what she couldn’t live without and made her feel excited about dating again.

Within a few years, Sue met a caring man whose values and goals matched her own. They’ve been married for eight years now. Sue credited her newfound relationship knowledge for helping her to create her own love story.

Now she’s added an individual coaching program to her Chicago-based therapy practice as a way to empower singles seeking love and fulfillment. Her relationship coaching for singles is all about overcoming negative dating habits and developing the skills it takes to succeed in the modern dating world.

“I help my clients with confidence and clarity,” Sue told us. “I give them the confidence that they can have what they want and the clarity to go after it.”

One-on-One Programs Foster a Mindful Approach to Dating

Sue has 25 years of experience working as a therapist helping her clients work through issues of grief, anxiety, and communication. In 2011, she added relationships and dating to her counseling repertoire. She now acts as a direct and supportive partner for singles and couples in need of advice on emotionally charged topics. Whether she’s talking with them on the phone or in person, Sue’s loving philosophy brings insight to people in all stages of life.

Going beyond talking through problems in therapy sessions, Sue’s one-on-one coaching programs provide goal-oriented and concrete solutions to relationship issues. During the course of three to six months, Sue meets weekly with clients to explore what they want, what’s holding them back, and what they can do to change. She gets singles to develop a clear vision for their ideal relationship and offers realistic tools to get there.

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Sue encourages single women to embrace their strengths and address their weaknesses.

“I see a lot of professional women who have focused on their careers and thought that dating would come naturally,” Sue said, “but, in this day and age, it doesn’t work like that.”

Sue supports women seeking long-term partnerships and genuine connections. Clients from across the country come to her because they want to make positive changes in their love lives.

“I find I’m very helpful for women who are ready for a relationship,” she said. “They’re ready to try something different.”

Get Free Advice on Her Blog & Through Other Resources

If you want to get a sense of Sue’s knowledge and passion in the realm of relationships, you can explore her guidance style in her free dating advice blog. She discusses strategies for relationship success as well as how to recognize the red flags on first dates to equip singles to tackle love-related challenges on their own.

A lot of her advice focuses on doing the inner work necessary to ready yourself for a relationship. “When you find and nurture your inner contentment,” she wrote in an article, “my hunch is the ‘hole’ you now think is the lack of a partner will start to fill with self-regard and, eventually, self-love.”

“I truly believe love is the essence of life. The capacity to love — and be loved — represents harmony between giving and receiving.” — Sue DeSanto, relationship coach and therapist

In addition to her blog, Sue is working in tandem with a health coach shaman to develop an instructive and holistic course for singles. Dating, Sexuality, and Empowerment takes people on a spiritual journey to a healthier state of being. This new and exciting program is scheduled to launch in early November. “We’re addressing dating patterns,” Sue told us, “but also working with a person’s energy to shift heads and open hearts.”

Giving Women the Confidence to Change Their Love Lives

Over the years, Sue has gotten praise from all corners of the dating industry. Her clients are particularly complimentary and enthusiastic in their reviews. “She is a great thought partner to work with,” Chicagoan JT said. “She has a great sense of humor to bring lightness to the work, and she is generous in sharing her experiences.”

One single woman came to Sue feeling inadequate and unprepared to date as a single mom, and she came away with a proofread dating profile and proven dating techniques under her belt. Within months, she met a man online who actually lived down the street from her. Their daughters went to school together! Now she happily tells her story and refers her single friends to Sue’s relationship coaching practice.

“Sue helped me realize that using my career as a distraction from my fears of getting involved in a relationship was only hurting me,” wrote JK in a testimonial. “She not only helped me find a way to balance my life but open myself up to a relationship that is honest and authentic. I’ve become proud of who I am and not afraid that someone won’t love that person.”

“Sue is incredible – a warm and compassionate presence, she was amazing to work with.” — GG, a coaching client

Many clients describe Sue as a compassionate coach with thoughtful insights into the inner dynamics of dating and relationships. She gets to the core of what’s blocking someone from reaching their goals and how they can flip the switch and start improving. Her mission is to pair understanding with action and motivate her clients.

“I help women step into their power,” she said. “First, I had to do it for myself, and now I can show others how to get what they want in life.”

Sue DeSanto Helps Singles Go After What They Want

Sue’s background as a therapist and a struggling single informs her dating advice and grounds her discussions with single women in her private practice. She connects with her clients on a personal level because she also has experienced the uncertainty, joys, and frustrations of dating as an adult.

Over the past few years, Sue has been an uplifting force in the dating world, especially for women on a journey of self-discovery. Her relationship coaching brings out the best in singles and inspires people to rise above their personal challenges. In one-on-one sessions, she imparts the life-changing love lessons that took her from divorced single mother to happily married relationship expert.

“We all have areas of strength and vulnerability,” Sue told us. “I love going out there and saying there’s nothing wrong with you — it’s just stories you’ve been told and tell yourself. And we can change those stories.”

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