Transformational Coach Bershan Shaw Inspires Daters To Overcome Fear And Find Love

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Transformational Coach & Author Bershan Shaw Inspires Daters to Overcome Their Fears & Find Love

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Amber Brooks is the Editor-in-Chief at When she was growing up, her family teased her for being "boy crazy," but she preferred to think of herself as a budding dating and relationship expert. As an English major in college, Amber honed her communication skills to write clearly, knowledgeably, and passionately about a variety of subjects. Now with over 1,800 lifestyle articles to her name, Amber brings her tireless wit and relatable experiences to She has been quoted by the Washington Times, Cosmopolitan, The New York Post, and AskMen.

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The Short Version: When Bershan Shaw survived stage-IV breast cancer, she found a new purpose in life. From that moment onward, the motivational speaker dedicated her energy to spreading joy and love to people around the world. Over the past decade, she has given speeches, conducted webinars, and offered life-changing guidance to empower men and women across the globe. Her inspirational message has resonated with hundreds of thousands of people facing challenges in their lives. Today, Bershan is a galvanizing force in the dating world, coaching single women to find their inner warrior and attract the right relationship by living honestly, consciously, and courageously. With sage dating advice, Bershan leads singles from where they are to where they want to be.

Sometimes our greatest challenges become our greatest strengths. That’s a lesson Bershan Shaw would discover in the battle of her life, a battle for her life. She was diagnosed with stage-IV breast cancer and had a 2% chance of living beyond than three months. “Do you believe in miracles?” Bershan’s doctor had asked her.

Bershan looked her doctor in the eye and said, “Hell yeah, I do.”

Photo of Bershan Shaw, dating coach and motivational speaker

For the past 10 years, Bershan Shaw has inspired people with her remarkable life story.

That was over 10 years ago. Today, she is alive, thriving, and completely cancer-free. She did all she could to beat the odds and found her life’s purpose in her most desperate hour. “I just remember thinking, ‘If you give me a chance to live, I’ll help people live their best life,” she recalled. “That experience helped me realize that I had to get busy living, not dying.”

The two-time breast cancer survivor now dedicates her life to mentoring and supporting others in the journey to find joy, love, and fulfillment. She is the Founder and CEO of URAWarrior, a motivational resource for lovers and leaders worldwide, and travels around the world to speak to audiences about harnessing your inner strength.

Bershan’s unconquerable spirit has inspired many single women to believe in themselves and achieve their life, career, and relationship goals. The best-selling author has a growing presence on social media with 49,100 Instagram followers, 60,000 Facebook followers, and 112,000 Twitter followers. She uses these channels to share her journey with others and connect directly with people around the world.

“I help people all over the world understand who they are and love themselves,” she said. “You only find true love when you start loving yourself.”

Life, Career & Dating Coaching Uplift Men & Women Worldwide

Bershan conducts one-on-one coaching sessions in person and on Skype with clients around the world. The motivational speaker offers impactful life coaching, career coaching, and diversity inclusion training, but what appeals most to singles is her support as a dating coach. In intimate relationship coaching sessions, she emphasizes the importance on self-love in the journey toward true love. Bershan tackles the deep topics that can hamper a dater’s success; she guides her clients to face their demons and work on becoming a confident and courageous warrior in all aspects of life.

Her coaching sessions are a boot camp that prepares singles to attract a fulfilling partner and a fulfilling life. She addresses what to wear, how to flirt, and other ways to ready yourself for a long-lasting relationship. What’s Bershan’s guiding philosophy for self-improvement? Practice makes perfect. “You have to get in the habit of dating,” she said. “You have to put effort into it if you want to find someone.”

Bershan gives her clients daily exercises to help them develop their conversational skills and get in a can-do mindset. Her program challenges singles to get active and get the results they want in a short period of time. “The people who work with me have to date every day,” she said. “It’s like a job — you have to go out there and stay in the business of dating.”

The inspirational dating coach is always pushing the envelop to show daters what joys are possible when one keeps an open mind. In some cases, Bershan has to confront and contend with her clients’ preconceived notions about what type of person they want to date. By limiting themselves to one profession or one ethnicity, singles are closing the door to many wonderful people, and Bershan won’t let that pass. She persuades her clients to rid themselves of a set idea of what they want in a partner. In her view, singles shouldn’t seek a perfect person because perfection doesn’t exist when dealing with real-life human beings.

Oftentimes, Bershan lends clarity and perspective to daters stuck in their own fears. One woman felt ashamed because she spoke with a stutter and avoided dating situations. Her life changed when she signed up for personal coaching sessions with Bershan. The dating coach helped her move past her fears and realize the dating opportunities she’d been missing out on.

Bershan emphasized that everyone has imperfections and that being loved has nothing to do with being perfect. “It’s OK. We’re human,” she told the woman. “Don’t beat yourself up. We all have flaws, and we’re all broken angels.” The stuttering woman took this advice to heart, went after her dreams, and is now happily married.

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In need of a wingwoman? Bershan provides engaging matchmaking services to help singles dive into the dating world and find the right person in no time. She pairs up couples in Miami, Los Angeles, New York, Washington DC, and other big cities in the US. The professional matchmaker’s spot-on intuition has led to many happy relationships and more than a few wedding invitations in her mailbox.

Bershan’s high-end matchmaking business caters to busy professionals (typically with an annual income of over $100,000) who know what they want but have trouble finding it. The no-nonsense matchmaker assesses the situation and provides practical dating solutions that yield fast results.

“You have pushed me in a positive way and changed the way I was thinking. I’m engaged now.” — Krista M., one of Bershan’s clients

The three-step process involves an in-depth intake process, a flirting try-out, and hands-on coaching as well as matching. Bershan takes the time to get to know her clients — their hobbies, experiences, dreams, and psychology — so she can properly pair them up with compatible dates. What’s unusual about her matchmaking style is she likes to accompany her clients on nights out so she can see them in action. “I actually go out and watch you flirt,” she said. “That way I know how you are and can coach you to being the best you can be.”

Bershan’s goal as a matchmaker is to give her clients a chance to explore their boundaries, grow their interpersonal skills, and become comfortable in all types of dating scenarios.

In addition to matchmaking, Bershan offers a do-it-yourself online course that advises women on where to find a good guy and what to do to nab him.
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Bershan motivates singles to do the work that leads to lasting change. “I push you past your fears,” she said. “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”

Books & Podcasts Tap Into the Warrior Within

The I Am a Warrior Tour is a holistic retreat offering a weekend of personal growth. The transformative program involves yoga classes, group workshops, team-building activities, and tons of bonding. A sisterhood of warriors comes together out of a desire to rejuvenate themselves in a beautiful paradise. If you’re feeling rundown, this vacation is the perfect remedy to get yourself back in a positive frame of mind.

Cover of URAWARRIOR 365 Ways to Challenge You to a Better Life by Bershan Shaw

Bershan’s best-selling book provides a daily reminder to live with joy and purpose.

Her book “URAWARRIOR 365 Ways to Challenge You to a Better Life” gives readers a new opportunity for growth every day for a year. Each page offers a fresh idea about how to get unstuck from a routine and attack life with a positive mindset. The book addresses the four pillars of a person’s life — relationships, health, work, and family — and provides a comprehensive plan to becoming your best self. Singles who want to heal themselves can use this introspective self-help resource as a guide to a new life.

“A very uplifting book loaded with positive affirmations, inspiring ideas, great advice, and thought-provoking quotes,” wrote Lisa J. in a review on Amazon. “This book will help empower you and give you strength to deal with life’s many challenges, whatever they may be.”

Bershan also doles out salient advice in inspirational podcasts. The Warrior Circle offers an empowering message to women so they come away feeling ready to achieve their life, career, and relationship goals. Listeners learn to cultivate greater confidence day-to-day and become a passionate and purposeful warrior in the dating arena.

“I love helping women find love,” Bershan told us. “It’s a blessing to work with so many people. I feel like I was put here to do this.”

Bershan Shaw Motivates People to Discover Their Greatness

When Bershan reached her lowest low, she found the strength to soar to amazing heights. Her transformative journey is inspirational to hundreds of thousands of people facing their own challenges and in need of a warrior spirit to guide them. From personalized coaching sessions to re-energizing weekend workshops, Bershan provides a wealth of resources for women serious about self-improvement.

“I will help you manifest your dream and tap into your warrior spirit. Think it, create it, write it, speak it, do it!” — Bershan Shaw

Bershan’s constant support and influential words of wisdom empower daters to become the best version of themselves and attract the right person. Whatever obstacles you face, once you change your mindset, you can change your life.

“Don’t settle for less than you deserve,” she said with feeling. “I push people to realize their greatness and get what they want. That’s my life purpose.”

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