How Do I Approach Women When Some People Don’t Believe in Same-Sex Relationships?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

How do you approach a woman when some people still don’t believe in same-sex relationships?

-Veronica (Illinois)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear Veronica,

Here’s a gentle tip: When you become truly, deeply accepting of yourself and your sexuality, it will be much easier. Yes, even gay people can feel homophobic.

I once met a lesbian woman who was so accepting of herself that she told me she never even asks herself if a woman she is attracted to is gay or straight.

As she put it, “My nickname in college was ‘The Matrix’ because I could turn anyone to my side!” Now that’s some self-confidence.

As far as whether the people in your world practice same-sex love, you’ll just have to use your instincts and self-confidence.

Of course, large cities increase your odds because there tends to be greater numbers of gay, bisexual and transgendered people living in urban areas.

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